Labels and dating, they go hand in hand. People always put their own prejudices out there, putting a label on you for just being you. If you want to be cautious when dating, you are called frigid. If you want to be more outgoing, then you are a player. It really is quite ridiculous.
There are a whole range of names which people are labelled with when dating, some relatively benign, others not so benign. Regardless, all these labels have negative connotations and instead of encouraging you to go out and meet people, they make you feel like you need to justify what you are doing and the dating decisions you have made.
The label "player" is coming up quite frequently at the moment. Its typically used to describe a man who dates many women and discusses his dates with other men. That is what this article is about.
I find it very strange that a man who is open to discussing his romantic life, with the intent of learning and improving himself, is labelled a player.
Women are much better at discussing their romantic life with each other than men are. Therefore they are much better at learning from each other. However there are groups of men who have set up little communities, with the simple aim of learning how to better interact with women to produce a more mutually beneficial and enjoyable dating experience.
As women tend to discuss things much more openly and honestly among themselves, they are much better situated to learn about men, than men are to learn about women. Women can learn from each others experiences whereas men must learn from their own experiences only.
There tends to be two reasons why this situation arises. The first is because men, in their groups of mates, tend to be very competitive leading to displays of bravado. Also, men can feel that by speaking to their mates about what really is going on, they are somehow "betraying" their dating partner. After all, "a gentleman never kisses and tells".
This is a big issue. Learning about dating, women and romance through open communication with like minded men will mean you will obtain the knowledge to create a more harmonious dating experience. Its a win-win situation, no-one is worse off. You discuss openly, you learn from the honest sharing of ideas, you become wise and through the application of that wisdom, you create joy. Its important men learn to do this for both themselves and the women they love. Yet strangely, the men who do this already are called "players".
So, if you are single, a man and interested in understanding more about women, no doubt you have faced these challenges yourself. Keep the faith, forget what everyone says, you are not a player. As long as you are being compassionate to your dating partners, continue on your journey of self discovery and improvement. It is a good thing. - 15437
There are a whole range of names which people are labelled with when dating, some relatively benign, others not so benign. Regardless, all these labels have negative connotations and instead of encouraging you to go out and meet people, they make you feel like you need to justify what you are doing and the dating decisions you have made.
The label "player" is coming up quite frequently at the moment. Its typically used to describe a man who dates many women and discusses his dates with other men. That is what this article is about.
I find it very strange that a man who is open to discussing his romantic life, with the intent of learning and improving himself, is labelled a player.
Women are much better at discussing their romantic life with each other than men are. Therefore they are much better at learning from each other. However there are groups of men who have set up little communities, with the simple aim of learning how to better interact with women to produce a more mutually beneficial and enjoyable dating experience.
As women tend to discuss things much more openly and honestly among themselves, they are much better situated to learn about men, than men are to learn about women. Women can learn from each others experiences whereas men must learn from their own experiences only.
There tends to be two reasons why this situation arises. The first is because men, in their groups of mates, tend to be very competitive leading to displays of bravado. Also, men can feel that by speaking to their mates about what really is going on, they are somehow "betraying" their dating partner. After all, "a gentleman never kisses and tells".
This is a big issue. Learning about dating, women and romance through open communication with like minded men will mean you will obtain the knowledge to create a more harmonious dating experience. Its a win-win situation, no-one is worse off. You discuss openly, you learn from the honest sharing of ideas, you become wise and through the application of that wisdom, you create joy. Its important men learn to do this for both themselves and the women they love. Yet strangely, the men who do this already are called "players".
So, if you are single, a man and interested in understanding more about women, no doubt you have faced these challenges yourself. Keep the faith, forget what everyone says, you are not a player. As long as you are being compassionate to your dating partners, continue on your journey of self discovery and improvement. It is a good thing. - 15437
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