Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Want Your Ex Back?

By Jeremi Hany

Everybody wants to find a soul mate they can spend the rest of their life with. Once you find your soul mate, you may feel on top of the world. You will feel like you are capable of dealing with anything that comes your way. Unfortunately, breakups do happen and nobody is immune to it.

Some breakups are unavoidable while others can be reverse. Do you want your lover back as you realize you still love them deeply and cannot forget them. Below are some tips for winning your lover back.

1) The very first step is to make sure that you have a clear mind if you really want to win your lover back. People can easily tell that you are thinking too much. If there are a lot of things in your mind that is bothering you, your ex can easily tell. You need to stop focusing on how desperately you want your lover back. Stop worrying about the future of your relationship and simply clear your mind. It will enhance the communication you have with your lover. This will increase your chances of winning him or her back.

2) If you are really keen on winning your ex back, you need to stop all behavior of desperation or neediness. This is very important because desperation and neediness will only tend to push your ex further and further away. In fact, you will want to be calm and cool and be okay about it. By being calm and cool an d okay with your break up, you are more likely to gain your ex's attention again.

3) To win your lover back, you need to change yourself. You don't want to be your old self if you want to get your ex back. Remember, it is the old you that breaks up with your ex. So, it is time to appear a bit different. You don't need to have a 360 degree change. But at the very least, do something to improve your life, like exercising more or even changing to a better job. Most probably, your ex will take notice and respond positively to the changes.

4) To get your ex back, do not forget. You should not allow your past to haunt you, but you should not forget about what led to the break up either. Take what happened in the past and turn these events into a learning experience. This is the best way to make sure that you do not make the same mistakes in the future, should you get back together with your ex sometime in the future.

5) Have a good plan! You cannot just blindly do something, hoping that things will turn out your way. Craft a logical plan and make sure you stick to it. By having a sound plan to follow, you will have a much higher chance of success.

Armed with a plan, you will be able to win your ex back sooner or later. - 15437

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