Breaking up with a girl can be rough. Next to finding a woman to date, it's one of the most difficult situations you can find yourself in.
And there are a variety of reasons why a guy would want to stop seeing a girl. Maybe he just isn't physically attracted to her. Maybe he doesn't feel any emotional connection. Maybe her personality irritates him.
Whatever the reason, the fact remains that you're not happy with the person you are seeing, and you want to END IT.
The old saying goes - breaking up is hard to do. And boy, they weren't kidding. It's always hard to tell someone you don't care for them the same way they do for you. But it's always best to do it in a way that causes the least amount of pain possible.
The first thing to remember is that the sooner you do this, the better. If you know early on you don't want to go deeper into a relationship, cut things off quickly instead of leading the girl on. This will make the separation easier.
Sometimes, you may be tempted to keep the girl around until something better comes along. But don't do this. Prolonging something you know isn't going to work out won't do either of you any good.
Don't start avoiding the person, or worse yet, ignoring them. Doing this will cause them to think they did something wrong to upset you, and eventually that will turn into resentment for you.
It's always best to end things amicably. In the future, you might want to come back to her at some point, either romantically, or if you need help with something. Even if you don't, it's still a good idea.
You never want to burn a bridge and give up your ability to influence a woman by having a bad break up, or dumping her in the wrong way. When you do break the news, try and do it gently.
Make sure you're there in person. If that's too hard for you, at least talk to her on the phone. Don't leave a message or text her your decision. Have the courtesy to tell her in person.
When you break the news, let her know that it has been hard for you to come to this decision, because she is a great girl. But for whatever reason, you don't feel the chemistry you need to be in a relationship with her.
Let her know you still value her and want to be her friend (even if you don't), and then ask her what she thinks.
Usually, she will want to know why it is you don't feel that special chemistry you need to be in a relationship. When she asks this, let her know this just wasn't the right time for you, and that you don't really know what you're looking for.
Being vague will help spare the girl's feelings.
A good thing to do is apologize for not feeling that chemistry! If you show her you are sorry, and wish things were different, she'll feel empowered. That will help with the feeling of rejection she's dealing with.
Be clear that you would like the relationship to end on the best of terms. Find out what it would take to still be friends. She'll be in control, and from there allow her to dictate things. Odds are, she'll be quite copacetic about it. - 15437
And there are a variety of reasons why a guy would want to stop seeing a girl. Maybe he just isn't physically attracted to her. Maybe he doesn't feel any emotional connection. Maybe her personality irritates him.
Whatever the reason, the fact remains that you're not happy with the person you are seeing, and you want to END IT.
The old saying goes - breaking up is hard to do. And boy, they weren't kidding. It's always hard to tell someone you don't care for them the same way they do for you. But it's always best to do it in a way that causes the least amount of pain possible.
The first thing to remember is that the sooner you do this, the better. If you know early on you don't want to go deeper into a relationship, cut things off quickly instead of leading the girl on. This will make the separation easier.
Sometimes, you may be tempted to keep the girl around until something better comes along. But don't do this. Prolonging something you know isn't going to work out won't do either of you any good.
Don't start avoiding the person, or worse yet, ignoring them. Doing this will cause them to think they did something wrong to upset you, and eventually that will turn into resentment for you.
It's always best to end things amicably. In the future, you might want to come back to her at some point, either romantically, or if you need help with something. Even if you don't, it's still a good idea.
You never want to burn a bridge and give up your ability to influence a woman by having a bad break up, or dumping her in the wrong way. When you do break the news, try and do it gently.
Make sure you're there in person. If that's too hard for you, at least talk to her on the phone. Don't leave a message or text her your decision. Have the courtesy to tell her in person.
When you break the news, let her know that it has been hard for you to come to this decision, because she is a great girl. But for whatever reason, you don't feel the chemistry you need to be in a relationship with her.
Let her know you still value her and want to be her friend (even if you don't), and then ask her what she thinks.
Usually, she will want to know why it is you don't feel that special chemistry you need to be in a relationship. When she asks this, let her know this just wasn't the right time for you, and that you don't really know what you're looking for.
Being vague will help spare the girl's feelings.
A good thing to do is apologize for not feeling that chemistry! If you show her you are sorry, and wish things were different, she'll feel empowered. That will help with the feeling of rejection she's dealing with.
Be clear that you would like the relationship to end on the best of terms. Find out what it would take to still be friends. She'll be in control, and from there allow her to dictate things. Odds are, she'll be quite copacetic about it. - 15437
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