For a shy guy to meet women, it can be very difficult.
In fact, this is no small feat for most guys, but even more so for the guy who considers himself to be "shy."
I'd even argue that shy guys tend to get the short-end-of-the-stick, so to speak, when it comes to women and relationships in general!
The reason for this is that if a girl is shy, she can still have guys coming up and approaching her, and eventually find a boyfriend. However, your average shy guy isn't going to get women coming his way anytime soon.
It's the sad reality of men is that we are the ones destined to be the pursuers. Women won't approach us, we have to be the ones to walk up to THEM and do all the work.
If we don't approach, we don't get the girl.
Sucks, right?
And sadly - shy guys just don't approach women! And because of this, they tend to end up alone and desperate most of the time.
Well, don't worry too much. Approaching women isn't as hard as you might think - ESPECIALLY if you're dealing with shyness. You just need to follow a few simple tips, and before you know it, you'll be dealing with more women than you can handle.
1. Memorize A Few Good Pick Up Lines
One of the biggest reasons why shy guys don't approach a woman is because their brain FREEZES and they can't think of anything to say.
Coming up with something cool to say off the top of your head is rarely easy unless you have that gift. Having a good pickup line is a great idea just for this situation. If it's good and you know it will work, then don't hesitate.
Pick up lines get a bad rap, because we always hear the BAD ones. You know, the kind like "I lost my number, can I have yours?" "Did you wash your pants in Windex? Because I can see myself in them?" and of course, the always popular "Why don't you come back to my place for pizza and sex. What? You don't like pizza?"
Some still use them though, and they are terrible. And get terrible results.
A good pick up line is simply something that engages a girl and gets her TALKING to you. Once you get a conversation going, you can take it pretty much anywhere you want.
Using a line like "Hey, in your opinion, would you ever want to date a guy who spends three hours a day in the gym?" is much more effective than any of the bad pick up lines you hear.
It may seem like a random question, but you're asking her about a genuine opinion she might have, and of course, this conversation can lead to talking about past relationships, guys she's dated, and what she finds attractive in guys (all good information to know, right?).
A good pickup line doesn't have to wow the girl. It just needs to get her talking. But try and stay away from chatting about World Of Warcraft and your Star Trek DVD Box Set. Save that convo for the third date.
2. Utilize The Power Of Negative Visualization
A big reason shy guys balk at meeting a girl is because they are too "intimidated" by her beauty. It makes them nervous or scared to approach.
That's why I recommend you use the power of "negative" visualization to make that hot chick seem less desirable!
Imagine her with really hairy legs, a moustache, a huge boil on her nose, and really bad body odor.
Not so appealing anymore, right?
When a shy guy is able to turn his attraction level for a woman down a few notches, it helps him to find the courage to approach her, because suddenly, she's not so intimidating anymore.
This can really help you to relax, and maybe even have a little bit of fun! And that's never a bad thing.
Make sure to read part 2! - 15437
In fact, this is no small feat for most guys, but even more so for the guy who considers himself to be "shy."
I'd even argue that shy guys tend to get the short-end-of-the-stick, so to speak, when it comes to women and relationships in general!
The reason for this is that if a girl is shy, she can still have guys coming up and approaching her, and eventually find a boyfriend. However, your average shy guy isn't going to get women coming his way anytime soon.
It's the sad reality of men is that we are the ones destined to be the pursuers. Women won't approach us, we have to be the ones to walk up to THEM and do all the work.
If we don't approach, we don't get the girl.
Sucks, right?
And sadly - shy guys just don't approach women! And because of this, they tend to end up alone and desperate most of the time.
Well, don't worry too much. Approaching women isn't as hard as you might think - ESPECIALLY if you're dealing with shyness. You just need to follow a few simple tips, and before you know it, you'll be dealing with more women than you can handle.
1. Memorize A Few Good Pick Up Lines
One of the biggest reasons why shy guys don't approach a woman is because their brain FREEZES and they can't think of anything to say.
Coming up with something cool to say off the top of your head is rarely easy unless you have that gift. Having a good pickup line is a great idea just for this situation. If it's good and you know it will work, then don't hesitate.
Pick up lines get a bad rap, because we always hear the BAD ones. You know, the kind like "I lost my number, can I have yours?" "Did you wash your pants in Windex? Because I can see myself in them?" and of course, the always popular "Why don't you come back to my place for pizza and sex. What? You don't like pizza?"
Some still use them though, and they are terrible. And get terrible results.
A good pick up line is simply something that engages a girl and gets her TALKING to you. Once you get a conversation going, you can take it pretty much anywhere you want.
Using a line like "Hey, in your opinion, would you ever want to date a guy who spends three hours a day in the gym?" is much more effective than any of the bad pick up lines you hear.
It may seem like a random question, but you're asking her about a genuine opinion she might have, and of course, this conversation can lead to talking about past relationships, guys she's dated, and what she finds attractive in guys (all good information to know, right?).
A good pickup line doesn't have to wow the girl. It just needs to get her talking. But try and stay away from chatting about World Of Warcraft and your Star Trek DVD Box Set. Save that convo for the third date.
2. Utilize The Power Of Negative Visualization
A big reason shy guys balk at meeting a girl is because they are too "intimidated" by her beauty. It makes them nervous or scared to approach.
That's why I recommend you use the power of "negative" visualization to make that hot chick seem less desirable!
Imagine her with really hairy legs, a moustache, a huge boil on her nose, and really bad body odor.
Not so appealing anymore, right?
When a shy guy is able to turn his attraction level for a woman down a few notches, it helps him to find the courage to approach her, because suddenly, she's not so intimidating anymore.
This can really help you to relax, and maybe even have a little bit of fun! And that's never a bad thing.
Make sure to read part 2! - 15437
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