Sunday, March 15, 2009

How To Win An Ex Back

By Jeremi Hany

Have you just experience a breakup? Are you trying to figure out how to get your lover back. Almost every grown up has been through some form of breakup. Most just decided to let go instead of finding ways to win their ex back.

However, if you have decided that you do want your ex back, then there are several options you can take. Everyone has to deal with a break up but a break up doesn't necessary mean the end of a relationship.

The fact is, almost ninety percent of the time, there is a possibility for you to win your ex back, provided you know what are the steps you need to take in order to win your lover back.

Your 1st step is to figure out exactly what went wrong that resulted in the break up. Although you won't be able to go back to the past, and you won't be able to change what has happened, but you can still learn from your mistakes. It is important that you learn from your mistakes and grow from there.

The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviors that your ex could not deal with anymore. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again.

You can win back your lover if you know exactly the steps that you need to take. However, if you want a long lasting relationships, it is very crucial for you to figure out what leads to the break up in the first place.

Your next step is to make sure that your ex does not perceive you as someone who is needy or desperate. It is normal for people to feel they can't live without their ex but you do not need to show it. Instead, stay calm and cool and let your ex see that you are doing okay by yourself.

If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

If you are thinking to taking revenge or making your ex jealous, think again. Doing so can backfire. Your ex might think you have really moved on and give up on the relationship altogether.

Even though you want to let your ex sees that you are okay by yourself but you do not want to encourage him or her to completely let go of the relationship, if your ultimate goal is to win your ex back. Once your ex sees how calm and cool you are, they will be more likely to want to get back together with you. - 15437

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