Thursday, March 19, 2009

3 Simple Steps To Win Your Ex Back

By Jeremi Hany

How can I get my ex back in 3 steps?

If you have just gone through a devastating break up, you are probably thinking about "What should I do to get my ex lover back?" Most likely, you hope you will be able to win your ex back as fast as possible. Well, this is what many people think.

At this point of time, it is easy for you to slip into a state of depression and you may be at a total loss of what you need to do next. You may have this urge that tells you to call your ex and beg him or her to take you back. But before you start doing these, stop! Doing so is not going to help you in any manner. Instead of making things better, it will only tend to make things worse, pushing your ex further and further away.

So, what should you do? Well, you should probably do something that is opposite of how you feel. Maybe you want to call your ex? Then don't do it. Maybe you feel like crying? Then don't do it. Instead, you want to follow 3 simple steps, and you will be able to find a good answer to, "How can I get back together with my lover?"

1 - Accept Your Break Up!

The very first thing you need to do is to accept the fact that you have already broken up with your ex. Let your ex knows that your are alright with it and start to "move on". Once you start to do this, it will relieve a lot of the stress and tension that both of you are experiencing. By giving your ex time to think about the relationship, you are giving yourself time to do the same thing as well. If your ex realize that he or she still has feelings for you, they will try to get back together with you.

2 - Cut off all communication with your ex!

No matter how tempted you are to contact your ex, don't do it. This is very necessary as you will really want to give yourself the time to seriously think about what you want out of your relationship. This move may seem very unconventional to you but there is a benefit in doing so. You are basically telling your ex that you are moving on and is absolutely fine with it.

This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.

3 - Plan For The Meet Up

Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together. - 15437

About the Author: