When we first fall in love it's called the "oceanic love" phase of a relationship. It can also be called the "There's Only You" phase of love. We spend all our time together, the sex is great, the connection feels rich and joyous.
We think of our new love all the time. We dont want to go to work. We just want to be with them. We want to make love and stay in bed and stay in each others company as much as we can. Everything that they do is cute or lovable.
Psychologists call this the oceanic love phase. It lasts up to six months or so and it creates a very powerful bond between us. It is very healthy and memorable. We shower our mate with attention, write them love notes, make them feel very special as they make us feel very special.
Of course, this period is a favorite for all of us. We feel "merged" and at times one with our mate. We know what love is and this is it. Our love can actually feel oceanic at times.
Then we begin to move out of that phase. Sorry, its gotta happen. No one gets to stay there forever. The movie Pretty Woman shows the falling into the oceanic love phase. It doesnt show what happened afterwards. We all romanticize this period and wish it would go on forever.
While the oceanic love phase is fantastic, it can actually create some problems for us later on that can kill the relationship. It creates problems because that feeling of deep love and connection changes.
We don't understand that it is normal to move out of this phase and feel less oceanic love and merging with our partner. When this happens, we feel that something is wrong, and can start to think our lover is no longer the one for us.
In actuality, we are just moving into the next phase of love relationships, which is the me/us phase. Here we get back somewhat to our own goals and needs in life. This is important. So don't make the mistake of comparing your current relationship phase with oceanic love and you can avoid some of the pitfalls couples fall into. - 15437
We think of our new love all the time. We dont want to go to work. We just want to be with them. We want to make love and stay in bed and stay in each others company as much as we can. Everything that they do is cute or lovable.
Psychologists call this the oceanic love phase. It lasts up to six months or so and it creates a very powerful bond between us. It is very healthy and memorable. We shower our mate with attention, write them love notes, make them feel very special as they make us feel very special.
Of course, this period is a favorite for all of us. We feel "merged" and at times one with our mate. We know what love is and this is it. Our love can actually feel oceanic at times.
Then we begin to move out of that phase. Sorry, its gotta happen. No one gets to stay there forever. The movie Pretty Woman shows the falling into the oceanic love phase. It doesnt show what happened afterwards. We all romanticize this period and wish it would go on forever.
While the oceanic love phase is fantastic, it can actually create some problems for us later on that can kill the relationship. It creates problems because that feeling of deep love and connection changes.
We don't understand that it is normal to move out of this phase and feel less oceanic love and merging with our partner. When this happens, we feel that something is wrong, and can start to think our lover is no longer the one for us.
In actuality, we are just moving into the next phase of love relationships, which is the me/us phase. Here we get back somewhat to our own goals and needs in life. This is important. So don't make the mistake of comparing your current relationship phase with oceanic love and you can avoid some of the pitfalls couples fall into. - 15437
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