Immediately after a break you may realise you want your ex back and begin to think what is the best way to do that. This is perfectly common.
You can find yourself falling into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"
1 - Accept the Break Up!
You first need to accept that the break up is happening and let your ex know that you are okay with this. Giving your ex the space to debrief on the relationship may stir up renewed feelings of love which will then be relayed back to you.
2 - Do not contact your ex!
By giving your ex distance from you, you are allowing them time to process what has happened as well as signal that you are a mature individual who really is okay with the break up and is moving on.
Your ex needs time to process the break up, and you need time to order your thoughts and develop an action plan for getting back together. Your absence may also serve a reminder to your ex on how much they actually miss you.
3 - Plan Ahead for the Get Together
After a time, ask your ex to meet with you. Where and when should be planned out prior to making any contact. This meeting can give you an insight into how they are feeling and whether they harbour any remorse about the break up, and whether there is any hope of reconcilliation. - 15437
You can find yourself falling into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"
1 - Accept the Break Up!
You first need to accept that the break up is happening and let your ex know that you are okay with this. Giving your ex the space to debrief on the relationship may stir up renewed feelings of love which will then be relayed back to you.
2 - Do not contact your ex!
By giving your ex distance from you, you are allowing them time to process what has happened as well as signal that you are a mature individual who really is okay with the break up and is moving on.
Your ex needs time to process the break up, and you need time to order your thoughts and develop an action plan for getting back together. Your absence may also serve a reminder to your ex on how much they actually miss you.
3 - Plan Ahead for the Get Together
After a time, ask your ex to meet with you. Where and when should be planned out prior to making any contact. This meeting can give you an insight into how they are feeling and whether they harbour any remorse about the break up, and whether there is any hope of reconcilliation. - 15437
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When Getting Back Together these three steps are very important to follow. For more information on these steps and more, be sure you grab Penny's instructions to the First Steps To Making Up.
