Every guy out there wants to know how to make out better. Let's be honest - it's fun! It also leads to things escalating to the bedroom.
Most men underestimate how important a good make out session is though.
Making out with a girl is a big deal. It's usually the thing that happens between you and a woman that is totally unambiguous. You can't go backwards from a make out session. It's the bright red dividing line between "friends" and "romance"
When you make out with a girl, it becomes undeniable to each other that your relationship is more than just a "friendship."
No matter how much you hang out with a girl, flirt with her, or touch her, everything can still be considered "innocent." Even if you both are certain that your relationship with each other is progressing into romance or the bedroom, making out with each other removes all uncertainty from the equation.
The real danger in making out with a girl is the fact that the act of kissing, touching, petting, and all that other stuff releases the tension you've built up to that point.
Without tension, there's a danger there of "losing the moment" and having the girl lose interest. Trust me - this happens more than you'd think. Without good timing and good follow-up, making out with a girl can kill your chances with her in the long term.
Since kissing is usually the first unambiguous part of making out, once you and a woman start flirting and connecting, and you begin to build that tension, she starts anticipating it.
Her imagination will probably run wild when thinking about you. She'll wonder if you are good at kissing. That sort of uncertainty and tension is fun and exhilarating, and it's bound to keep her interested.
But... after you kiss her, all the tension and uncertainty will vanish.
You can avoid this sort of letdown though, by re-establishing the tension when you start to kiss her. This will ensure that the tension escalates further.
This is important because you want to keep her on that romantic emotional high she's experiencing. Without sexual tension, those emotions she's feeling could disappear. To create more tension during your make-out, try this:
1. Kiss her like she kisses you. If she's a soft kisser, kiss her softly. If she's using a lot of tongue, use your tongue a lot. People kiss the way they like to be kissed! Use that to your advantage.
2. Don't stay lip-locked for too long. Pull back, break off the kiss, then go back in again. a long sessions of short kisses is better than a short session of long kisses.
3. Tease her physically. Run your hand up her leg, but pull it away before you get too high . Run your hand up her lower back, under she shirt. But don't take this too far! Again, you don't want to make her uncomfortable by moving too fast.
4. Kiss her neck. Don't stay on the lips, move to her neck, her shoulders (if you can), and her ears. These are all erogenous zones, so if you spend some time kissing them, it will work to get the girl you're with more excited.
5. Talk to her. Don't forget the power of auditory stimulation! Break off from a kiss occasionally and whisper in her ear. Ask her to re-affirm what's happening. Say things like "Does this feel good?" or "Tell me how much you like this..." The more you can get a girl to affirm what's happening during the make-out, the more tension you'll build.
Make sure to build up some tension before you try and make out with her. This is imperative - you can and will blow your shot at her easily if you don't.
Creating this tension is the first thing you should do before engaging in a make out session. If it's not there when you start, you'll probably hit a snag. Remember this and you'll be fine - 15437
Most men underestimate how important a good make out session is though.
Making out with a girl is a big deal. It's usually the thing that happens between you and a woman that is totally unambiguous. You can't go backwards from a make out session. It's the bright red dividing line between "friends" and "romance"
When you make out with a girl, it becomes undeniable to each other that your relationship is more than just a "friendship."
No matter how much you hang out with a girl, flirt with her, or touch her, everything can still be considered "innocent." Even if you both are certain that your relationship with each other is progressing into romance or the bedroom, making out with each other removes all uncertainty from the equation.
The real danger in making out with a girl is the fact that the act of kissing, touching, petting, and all that other stuff releases the tension you've built up to that point.
Without tension, there's a danger there of "losing the moment" and having the girl lose interest. Trust me - this happens more than you'd think. Without good timing and good follow-up, making out with a girl can kill your chances with her in the long term.
Since kissing is usually the first unambiguous part of making out, once you and a woman start flirting and connecting, and you begin to build that tension, she starts anticipating it.
Her imagination will probably run wild when thinking about you. She'll wonder if you are good at kissing. That sort of uncertainty and tension is fun and exhilarating, and it's bound to keep her interested.
But... after you kiss her, all the tension and uncertainty will vanish.
You can avoid this sort of letdown though, by re-establishing the tension when you start to kiss her. This will ensure that the tension escalates further.
This is important because you want to keep her on that romantic emotional high she's experiencing. Without sexual tension, those emotions she's feeling could disappear. To create more tension during your make-out, try this:
1. Kiss her like she kisses you. If she's a soft kisser, kiss her softly. If she's using a lot of tongue, use your tongue a lot. People kiss the way they like to be kissed! Use that to your advantage.
2. Don't stay lip-locked for too long. Pull back, break off the kiss, then go back in again. a long sessions of short kisses is better than a short session of long kisses.
3. Tease her physically. Run your hand up her leg, but pull it away before you get too high . Run your hand up her lower back, under she shirt. But don't take this too far! Again, you don't want to make her uncomfortable by moving too fast.
4. Kiss her neck. Don't stay on the lips, move to her neck, her shoulders (if you can), and her ears. These are all erogenous zones, so if you spend some time kissing them, it will work to get the girl you're with more excited.
5. Talk to her. Don't forget the power of auditory stimulation! Break off from a kiss occasionally and whisper in her ear. Ask her to re-affirm what's happening. Say things like "Does this feel good?" or "Tell me how much you like this..." The more you can get a girl to affirm what's happening during the make-out, the more tension you'll build.
Make sure to build up some tension before you try and make out with her. This is imperative - you can and will blow your shot at her easily if you don't.
Creating this tension is the first thing you should do before engaging in a make out session. If it's not there when you start, you'll probably hit a snag. Remember this and you'll be fine - 15437
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