It is natural for your friends to give you advice when you have broken up with someone. But is it good advice? Probably not. They only thing good was their intentions.
I know this because I've been through it myself, and I know what kind of advice they gave me. They were well-meaning but if I did it, I knew I had no shot of getting back together with my ex.
You know you are filled with emotion. Possibly you don't know that people are very aware of it. They know your upset and your ex knows your upset. This is not how you want to present yourself when trying to reconcile.
Think of all the same mistakes that other guys have made. They go ahead and call their ex even though they are not thinking clearly. What usually happens? They start arguing with them. ARGUING. Now, what do you think the odds are of getting back together when there is arguing involved? It's not impossible, but they sure made it harder on themselves, didn't they?
I'm going to give you some advice: just because you've been dumped does not give you license to go crazy. Sure, you're going to be pissed, that's natural when a girl ends the relationship on her terms. Looks at what you friends did in this same situation. They went crazy, and where did it get them? Nowhere, that's where. They're all still lonely, single losers.
If you can sit down and write your ex a letter, then there is an excellent chance of communicating exactly what you want.
First, accept the breakup and tell her you want to be friends. I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out. When you make a statement like that, what do you think that tells her? It tells her that you are in a better place and you are ready to talk. This helps get that first olive branch in your relationship.
While the whole process of winning back someone is rather complex, I must emphasize not to do what so many others have done. This is a delicate situation and must be done right. Do not badger her! It won't get you anywhere. - 15437
I know this because I've been through it myself, and I know what kind of advice they gave me. They were well-meaning but if I did it, I knew I had no shot of getting back together with my ex.
You know you are filled with emotion. Possibly you don't know that people are very aware of it. They know your upset and your ex knows your upset. This is not how you want to present yourself when trying to reconcile.
Think of all the same mistakes that other guys have made. They go ahead and call their ex even though they are not thinking clearly. What usually happens? They start arguing with them. ARGUING. Now, what do you think the odds are of getting back together when there is arguing involved? It's not impossible, but they sure made it harder on themselves, didn't they?
I'm going to give you some advice: just because you've been dumped does not give you license to go crazy. Sure, you're going to be pissed, that's natural when a girl ends the relationship on her terms. Looks at what you friends did in this same situation. They went crazy, and where did it get them? Nowhere, that's where. They're all still lonely, single losers.
If you can sit down and write your ex a letter, then there is an excellent chance of communicating exactly what you want.
First, accept the breakup and tell her you want to be friends. I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out. When you make a statement like that, what do you think that tells her? It tells her that you are in a better place and you are ready to talk. This helps get that first olive branch in your relationship.
While the whole process of winning back someone is rather complex, I must emphasize not to do what so many others have done. This is a delicate situation and must be done right. Do not badger her! It won't get you anywhere. - 15437
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