So you've done the work, and you've gotten a girl's phone number. You dial, and there's no answer, so you leave a message.
Therein lies the issue.
You've essentially put the ball in her court, and if you call her back too soon, you're going to look desperate. Wait too long to call her back, and you run the risk of having her lose interest.
This begs the question - how long should you wait for a girl to call you back?
If you watch a movie like "Swingers," all about young guys in the club scene, the common knowledge there is to wait 3 days to call back.
The logic here is that 3 days seems like enough time so that you don't come off as some type of desperate freak. But when it comes to getting a return phone call, you should be thinking about ANYTHING but yourself!
Understand - it's up to the girl whether or not she will call you back. So if you understand where she's coming from, you'll have a better idea of when to try again.
For example, did you get a feeling that the girl was really interested in you when she gave you the number? Try to remember. Sometimes a woman will hand you a number just to get rid of you.
Knowing the girl was into you is a big factor, because you have more leeway with someone who likes you than you do with someone who's neutral or on the fence.
Remember that sometimes, life happens, and she'll be so busy she can't call you. Then when they get time, they might be too tired, or just not wanting to talk.
Remember - talking to someone on the phone is a time commitment, and it also takes mental energy that can sometimes be hard to expend. Calling a girl on a weekday, when most people have jobs and responsibilities to attend to, can affect callback time.
Here are some tips when it comes to playing the phone game...
Have something ready to talk about, if you have to leave a message. Just saying "hi" and telling her to call you back won't cut it. Give a reason to call you back. Recall a prior conversation or point of interest. Tell her you just heard a funny joke you'd like to share with her. It doesn't matter, as long as she knows there's something to look forward to when she calls.
Give her a day to call you back. Don't wait three days, but don't call her back an hour later either. If she doesn't get back to you in a day's time, she might have just gotten busy or sidetracked. Call again the next day.
Use text message reminders before the next callback. Unlike leaving voice messages, texting a girl often doesn't come off as desperate. In fact, they can serve as good reminders, and more women will text you back rather than call you back. After your message, text her around three hours later. You can say something like:
"Hey - haven't heard back from you yet. You must be super-busy! Or are you leading some strange double life I don't know about? lol."
Occasional texts are great for keeping you on her mind.
Remember, don't overdo the calling. I'll give a girl three calls. If she doesn't call back or doesn't text, I move on to the next one. I don't waste my time on women who don't reply. There are too many out there that do. - 15437
Therein lies the issue.
You've essentially put the ball in her court, and if you call her back too soon, you're going to look desperate. Wait too long to call her back, and you run the risk of having her lose interest.
This begs the question - how long should you wait for a girl to call you back?
If you watch a movie like "Swingers," all about young guys in the club scene, the common knowledge there is to wait 3 days to call back.
The logic here is that 3 days seems like enough time so that you don't come off as some type of desperate freak. But when it comes to getting a return phone call, you should be thinking about ANYTHING but yourself!
Understand - it's up to the girl whether or not she will call you back. So if you understand where she's coming from, you'll have a better idea of when to try again.
For example, did you get a feeling that the girl was really interested in you when she gave you the number? Try to remember. Sometimes a woman will hand you a number just to get rid of you.
Knowing the girl was into you is a big factor, because you have more leeway with someone who likes you than you do with someone who's neutral or on the fence.
Remember that sometimes, life happens, and she'll be so busy she can't call you. Then when they get time, they might be too tired, or just not wanting to talk.
Remember - talking to someone on the phone is a time commitment, and it also takes mental energy that can sometimes be hard to expend. Calling a girl on a weekday, when most people have jobs and responsibilities to attend to, can affect callback time.
Here are some tips when it comes to playing the phone game...
Have something ready to talk about, if you have to leave a message. Just saying "hi" and telling her to call you back won't cut it. Give a reason to call you back. Recall a prior conversation or point of interest. Tell her you just heard a funny joke you'd like to share with her. It doesn't matter, as long as she knows there's something to look forward to when she calls.
Give her a day to call you back. Don't wait three days, but don't call her back an hour later either. If she doesn't get back to you in a day's time, she might have just gotten busy or sidetracked. Call again the next day.
Use text message reminders before the next callback. Unlike leaving voice messages, texting a girl often doesn't come off as desperate. In fact, they can serve as good reminders, and more women will text you back rather than call you back. After your message, text her around three hours later. You can say something like:
"Hey - haven't heard back from you yet. You must be super-busy! Or are you leading some strange double life I don't know about? lol."
Occasional texts are great for keeping you on her mind.
Remember, don't overdo the calling. I'll give a girl three calls. If she doesn't call back or doesn't text, I move on to the next one. I don't waste my time on women who don't reply. There are too many out there that do. - 15437
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