Have you ever done Speed Dating, or any other different versions of this trend? I've done it a few times over the years, and despite what I first thought, it was an absolute blast. I kept thinking about that part of 40 Year Old Virgin, with all the crazy women there, but it was nothing like that. My experience, too, is your gain. Here are a few tips to help you out.
First things first, let's talk about what you do BEFORE you go. I think it goes without saying that hygiene is the first thing you should take care of. This will be scrutinized even more than in a normal situation, so take care of this.
Clean yourself up, trim your nails neat, clip that nose hair. But once it is done, when you are ready to walk out that door, be DONE with it, save for a pack of mints for the dating itself.
The same thing goes for your clothing. Clean obviously, but dress to impress. I wouldn't go too showy, just make yourself look good. Polish your shoes, hit the jacket with the lint brush, and take care of any details.
Another thing to do is practice before you go. Not just some lines, or routines, but spontaneity. How does one practice that? By saying what immediately comes to mind when having a conversation. That sounds crazy, I know, but practice with a friend. The result is that you sound more genuine. Put in a bit of time with this, it'll help.
I tried something new lately - using the first date to warm up. Luckily, she wasn't beautiful, and it allowed me to make as many mistakes as necessary to get in a groove. The rest of the evening got much easier. I also found it was great, because I tried it when I was out of town, and it allowed me to get a feel for the women in a new area. I went to an 8 Minute Dating in Edmonton while out on business, and landed a really easy date with a beautiful woman.
Focus on bringing positive energy from your end. Amp it up, and if you are having fun, people will catch on to this and have fun themselves. They'll remember you, and your odds will be upped dramatically of landing the next date.
When you do that, you'll also be able to take advantage of the other guy's mistakes. Trust me, they'll make a lot. The biggest is being uptight and nervous. If you can avoid that, you'll look like a million bucks after they've dealt with some nervous, twitchy, uncomfortable guy. It helps when you smile while doing this, and relax. You'll allow them to do the same, and fun will happen!
During the conversation, you'll do far better if you show genuine interest in them, but as well, be ready to carry the conversation when they ask you a question. A good conversation should be back and forth, and neither side should feel drilled.
Also, make sure not to drink too much. This will blow your chances faster than anything. If they wanted a drunk guy, they'd hit a slum bar and do just fine. Don't be that guy.
When the time is about to run out, and you are having fun, go ahead and "close" with her. Let her know you had a great time, and that you'd love to continue the conversation. If she appears to be having fun, it should be very easy to get the next date with her.
Just remember, it's all about the first impression, and having fun, in this short period of time that you have with her. Work with what I've given you, put in your time, and you'll do well while speed dating. - 15437
First things first, let's talk about what you do BEFORE you go. I think it goes without saying that hygiene is the first thing you should take care of. This will be scrutinized even more than in a normal situation, so take care of this.
Clean yourself up, trim your nails neat, clip that nose hair. But once it is done, when you are ready to walk out that door, be DONE with it, save for a pack of mints for the dating itself.
The same thing goes for your clothing. Clean obviously, but dress to impress. I wouldn't go too showy, just make yourself look good. Polish your shoes, hit the jacket with the lint brush, and take care of any details.
Another thing to do is practice before you go. Not just some lines, or routines, but spontaneity. How does one practice that? By saying what immediately comes to mind when having a conversation. That sounds crazy, I know, but practice with a friend. The result is that you sound more genuine. Put in a bit of time with this, it'll help.
I tried something new lately - using the first date to warm up. Luckily, she wasn't beautiful, and it allowed me to make as many mistakes as necessary to get in a groove. The rest of the evening got much easier. I also found it was great, because I tried it when I was out of town, and it allowed me to get a feel for the women in a new area. I went to an 8 Minute Dating in Edmonton while out on business, and landed a really easy date with a beautiful woman.
Focus on bringing positive energy from your end. Amp it up, and if you are having fun, people will catch on to this and have fun themselves. They'll remember you, and your odds will be upped dramatically of landing the next date.
When you do that, you'll also be able to take advantage of the other guy's mistakes. Trust me, they'll make a lot. The biggest is being uptight and nervous. If you can avoid that, you'll look like a million bucks after they've dealt with some nervous, twitchy, uncomfortable guy. It helps when you smile while doing this, and relax. You'll allow them to do the same, and fun will happen!
During the conversation, you'll do far better if you show genuine interest in them, but as well, be ready to carry the conversation when they ask you a question. A good conversation should be back and forth, and neither side should feel drilled.
Also, make sure not to drink too much. This will blow your chances faster than anything. If they wanted a drunk guy, they'd hit a slum bar and do just fine. Don't be that guy.
When the time is about to run out, and you are having fun, go ahead and "close" with her. Let her know you had a great time, and that you'd love to continue the conversation. If she appears to be having fun, it should be very easy to get the next date with her.
Just remember, it's all about the first impression, and having fun, in this short period of time that you have with her. Work with what I've given you, put in your time, and you'll do well while speed dating. - 15437
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