Monday, March 9, 2009

I Still Love My Ex, Now What?

By Dan S.C. Reynolds

If you realize thinking, "I still love my ex" then you need to find out what you want to happen next. It is natural for there to be some love still hanging around. The two of you shared some special times together and were able to get so close. Those feelings are not easily broken completely. Does the love that is still there mean that you want to get back you ex girlfriend? What do those thoughts mean?

When someone says "I still love my ex" it is a good sign as it means that there was some love to begin with. That love was a gift that isn't easily taken away. There will still be a fondness and there will be a lot to remember from the relationship. Most of it will be good memories.

Just because there is love still lingering doesn't mean that you are bound to get back together or that it should even happen. You do need to be asking yourself, "I still love my ex, but do I want my ex back?" If you look at it closely and with a chance to step back and ponder it, you will be more able to see if the two of you are meant to be together.

If you have been able to figure out that your statement, "I still love my ex" is due to just a remaining fondness then don't push it in any direction. Just go with the flow. What will happen is that the two of you will either drift away or you will remain friends for a long time. That could be something special on its own - good friends are hard to find.

If, by saying, "I still love my ex", you mean that you want to get back together with them then you have to be willing to do some work. You need to first see if the other person has an interest in getting back together with you. This will happen naturally, like with the above advice. Just don't push it one way or the other and you will tell if the feeling is mutual. When the two of you decide that you want to try again, be ready to work.

No matter what kind of relationship it was, though, seek relationship advice from someone trained to do so who can help the two of you build back stronger what had fallen apart. Obviously there were mistakes made and the two of you were incapable of handling it on your own.

If you already had guidance before, find someone new to help you. You need a fresh start.

If you realize that you love your ex girlfriend, there's no need to panic. The key is to let things happen naturally at first and then seek help to get you in the right way. The momentum that you two create on your own will make the guidance easier. And before you know it, you will be back together. - 15437

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