I'll be straight up with you. I do not like night clubs for meeting women.
It's really simple. The odds are against you in a night club. It's better to take a date there, as opposed to trying to meet a girl in one.
Now, with that disclaimer, I realize a lot of men like to go out to night clubs because they are fun, and there are a LOT of women there to choose from.
So if you know how to overcome the obstacles that night clubs present, they can actually be great places to pick up women in.
To pick up girls in the club, you need to follow a few simple steps:
1. Understand that night clubs are all about STIMULUS.
Attracting attention to yourself in a night club is a great way to get noticed by girls. Try and dress above average. Wear clothes that are different and fashionable. Women love guys who dress nice, and if your clothes can attract attention to you, it'll make your job of meeting women easier.
2. Attitude is EVERYTHING.
Anything you can do to draw attention to yourself in a non-verbal way will be to your advantage in a club. Remember, you're dealing with a place that's loud and poorly lit, so having a confident attitude with the right body language is ESSENTIAL, because that's primarilly how you can communicate in a situation like that.
Walk with a swagger. Make strong eye contact. Be flirty - smile, wink, and nod. Having an outgoing attitude will help you to attract attention.
3. Don't say it, take action.
It's insane to try and hold a conversation in a loud club. Use actions to control the situation. Keep your introduction short. From there, you have some choices. You can take her by the hand and lead her to the smoking patio on the outside of the club. Or you can hit the dance floor.
Regardless of what you do, don't try and chat her up if she can't hear you. Display confidence with your actions instead.
4. Don't spend too much time with any one girl.
Latching onto one girl in the club is a bad idea! You might find a girl you like and want to hang around with her, but you'll actually get more mileage by flitting around the club and meeting as much women as possible.
Remember - clubs are about stimulus! Trying to do any one thing for too long will work against you. If you hang out with a girl too much in the club, she's going to get tired of you because you're now competing with all the other stimulus.
Make the rounds - dance and talk to lots of girls, and come back to the girl you like. Don't worry, she's not going anywhere. Just remember these magic words when you do this: "I'll be right back!"
5. Know How To Dance!
I've stated that non-verbal communication is essential in a good nightclub pickup. And you can't get more nonverbal than dancing!
Being a good dancer is a great way to attract attention. Girls love to dance, and if you can master the dance floor, you WILL impress them! Understand, many women equate how good a man dances with how good he is in the bedroom. (Strange, but true.)
Take some lessons so you can really learn how to move out there. In a club, that's where it's all going on anyhow. If you can get a girl to dance, chances are you can get her to kiss you too.
The key, overall, lies in nonverbal skills. Learn those skills, and you'll have major success in night clubs! - 15437
It's really simple. The odds are against you in a night club. It's better to take a date there, as opposed to trying to meet a girl in one.
Now, with that disclaimer, I realize a lot of men like to go out to night clubs because they are fun, and there are a LOT of women there to choose from.
So if you know how to overcome the obstacles that night clubs present, they can actually be great places to pick up women in.
To pick up girls in the club, you need to follow a few simple steps:
1. Understand that night clubs are all about STIMULUS.
Attracting attention to yourself in a night club is a great way to get noticed by girls. Try and dress above average. Wear clothes that are different and fashionable. Women love guys who dress nice, and if your clothes can attract attention to you, it'll make your job of meeting women easier.
2. Attitude is EVERYTHING.
Anything you can do to draw attention to yourself in a non-verbal way will be to your advantage in a club. Remember, you're dealing with a place that's loud and poorly lit, so having a confident attitude with the right body language is ESSENTIAL, because that's primarilly how you can communicate in a situation like that.
Walk with a swagger. Make strong eye contact. Be flirty - smile, wink, and nod. Having an outgoing attitude will help you to attract attention.
3. Don't say it, take action.
It's insane to try and hold a conversation in a loud club. Use actions to control the situation. Keep your introduction short. From there, you have some choices. You can take her by the hand and lead her to the smoking patio on the outside of the club. Or you can hit the dance floor.
Regardless of what you do, don't try and chat her up if she can't hear you. Display confidence with your actions instead.
4. Don't spend too much time with any one girl.
Latching onto one girl in the club is a bad idea! You might find a girl you like and want to hang around with her, but you'll actually get more mileage by flitting around the club and meeting as much women as possible.
Remember - clubs are about stimulus! Trying to do any one thing for too long will work against you. If you hang out with a girl too much in the club, she's going to get tired of you because you're now competing with all the other stimulus.
Make the rounds - dance and talk to lots of girls, and come back to the girl you like. Don't worry, she's not going anywhere. Just remember these magic words when you do this: "I'll be right back!"
5. Know How To Dance!
I've stated that non-verbal communication is essential in a good nightclub pickup. And you can't get more nonverbal than dancing!
Being a good dancer is a great way to attract attention. Girls love to dance, and if you can master the dance floor, you WILL impress them! Understand, many women equate how good a man dances with how good he is in the bedroom. (Strange, but true.)
Take some lessons so you can really learn how to move out there. In a club, that's where it's all going on anyhow. If you can get a girl to dance, chances are you can get her to kiss you too.
The key, overall, lies in nonverbal skills. Learn those skills, and you'll have major success in night clubs! - 15437
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