If you want to get your ex back fast, starting with one phone call, instead of waiting 30 days or more hoping he/she will forgive you, you will need a powerful strategy. You will need to use emotional intelligence that will help your ex to release their negative feelings about you so they can get back to feelings of love.
Before you even pick up the phone, remind yourself not to start by saying I'm sorry. This is a common mistake people making, apologizing over and over hoping their ex will understand and take them back. But if an apology was going to work, you'd probably already be back together. To get your ex back beginning with just one phone call, don't start with an apology!
Instead of saying I'm sorry, the first thing to do on the call is to admit what you did wrong. Own it. Say something in the vicinity of "I want to start by saying that I did you wrong. I was too controlling (or I cheated on you or whatever) and jealous." This is a critical first move.
When youve been wronged by someone, if they hurt you emotionally, then one of the things you need to know before you can ever get close to forgiveness is that the person knows they screwed up. If your mate cheated on you, for example, and they keep saying it didnt mean anything, you will tend to think at some emotional level that they dont really understand what they did wrong.
If you make taking responsibility for what you did your first step, you will really get your ex's attention. It is something that emotionally they need to hear.
By doing this you will clear the way for the next step, which is to acknowledge the pain that you caused your ex by whatever you did wrong. So you might say something like and I know that cheating on you made you feel betrayed and all alone and like I didnt love you
Now you are mirroring or acknowledging the pain you think you caused your ex by whatever you did wrong. You are making your ex feel heard and understood emotionally. They will begin to believe you really do understand how wrong you were.
Before your ex can consider taking you back, they need to get to forgiveness, and these two steps will get them there much quicker than just apologizing. They will set up your apology to make it more effective. There are more steps to getting your ex back beginning with just one powerful phone call, but these are a great start. - 15437
Before you even pick up the phone, remind yourself not to start by saying I'm sorry. This is a common mistake people making, apologizing over and over hoping their ex will understand and take them back. But if an apology was going to work, you'd probably already be back together. To get your ex back beginning with just one phone call, don't start with an apology!
Instead of saying I'm sorry, the first thing to do on the call is to admit what you did wrong. Own it. Say something in the vicinity of "I want to start by saying that I did you wrong. I was too controlling (or I cheated on you or whatever) and jealous." This is a critical first move.
When youve been wronged by someone, if they hurt you emotionally, then one of the things you need to know before you can ever get close to forgiveness is that the person knows they screwed up. If your mate cheated on you, for example, and they keep saying it didnt mean anything, you will tend to think at some emotional level that they dont really understand what they did wrong.
If you make taking responsibility for what you did your first step, you will really get your ex's attention. It is something that emotionally they need to hear.
By doing this you will clear the way for the next step, which is to acknowledge the pain that you caused your ex by whatever you did wrong. So you might say something like and I know that cheating on you made you feel betrayed and all alone and like I didnt love you
Now you are mirroring or acknowledging the pain you think you caused your ex by whatever you did wrong. You are making your ex feel heard and understood emotionally. They will begin to believe you really do understand how wrong you were.
Before your ex can consider taking you back, they need to get to forgiveness, and these two steps will get them there much quicker than just apologizing. They will set up your apology to make it more effective. There are more steps to getting your ex back beginning with just one powerful phone call, but these are a great start. - 15437
About the Author:
You can discover the Complete Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back In One Phone Call. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School here at Love Relationship Advice.
