The adult side of the dating industry has always been a topic for discussion. Some people love them, others loath them, some even fear them. They have people talking about morality and social fibre. They are guaranteed to create a debate.
To be honest, I just don't care for these debates. They reek of interfering in other people's business. Rather, in recognising that people do get use out of adult dating sites, I've researched a few of them and can now offer some advice regarding their pitfalls, to make them safer for you if you are heading down this route.
Adult dating sites have different pitfalls for men and women. That is, the risks women face are very different to the risks men face. Below is a summary.
Woman face the biggest risks at these types of site. As adult dating sites promote an expectation of sexual activity, women face very real risks of things progressing much faster than they want, and even what they give permission for.
So if you are a woman, never put yourself in a position of vulnerability until you are 100% sure the person you've met has your interests in mind too. Treat all first time meetings as a blind date. Always put safety first.
Make sure when you meet a potential in the real world you use your usual dating precautions. That is, only escalate when you feel safe and that it is ok. Trust your instincts. Don't throw caution to the wind just because you met this person at an adult site.
The biggest threats to men on these sites are not dangers to their person, rather dangers to their wallet. Adult dating sites are packed with scammers and unfortunately, most (but not all) of them are pretty women. They are exactly the type of women you wanted to meet on the site.
There are many different types of dating scam in this regard. For example there is the 1900 phone number scam. Here, the gorgeous girl you met at the website gets you to call a 1900 number and encourages a long phone call. You pay a fortune for the phone call, she makes money from the phone call. She never wants to meet you, if she met you, you wouldn't have to call and she'd stop making money.
Another breed gets you to join their personal website so you can view her on the webcam. The webcam is pay per view so every time you talk with her, you pay. Once again, she'll never meet you in real life. Why would she? She'll stop getting paid if she does.
And then there are scammers who are looking for a way out of their country. Yes, these scammers can be pretty persuasive, but if you are looking for an international introduction, an adult dating site is not the right place to be. Go to a profession international introductions site where the professionals who run it will protect you to some degree from being scammed.
The one thing I can suggest to all men who join adult dating sites is to remember what you went there for. All these scams manipulate you into doing something different. You didn't sign up for phone sex, for webchat or for a protracted engagement with an attractive 3rd world female. You joined to meet someone to meet in real life. There are so many women at theses sites, reject the ones that take you down the merry path.
The rewards of adult dating sites are pretty much the same for men and women. Its simple really. The people who join these sites are very open and honest about what they are looking for both sexually and romantically. It can sometimes be very "in your face", but this means that when you find someone you like, you know what they want, they know what you want, so the chances are really high that you'll get exactly what you are looking for. (which is probably something I can't write about here)
So be careful what you wish for! ;-) - 15437
To be honest, I just don't care for these debates. They reek of interfering in other people's business. Rather, in recognising that people do get use out of adult dating sites, I've researched a few of them and can now offer some advice regarding their pitfalls, to make them safer for you if you are heading down this route.
Adult dating sites have different pitfalls for men and women. That is, the risks women face are very different to the risks men face. Below is a summary.
Woman face the biggest risks at these types of site. As adult dating sites promote an expectation of sexual activity, women face very real risks of things progressing much faster than they want, and even what they give permission for.
So if you are a woman, never put yourself in a position of vulnerability until you are 100% sure the person you've met has your interests in mind too. Treat all first time meetings as a blind date. Always put safety first.
Make sure when you meet a potential in the real world you use your usual dating precautions. That is, only escalate when you feel safe and that it is ok. Trust your instincts. Don't throw caution to the wind just because you met this person at an adult site.
The biggest threats to men on these sites are not dangers to their person, rather dangers to their wallet. Adult dating sites are packed with scammers and unfortunately, most (but not all) of them are pretty women. They are exactly the type of women you wanted to meet on the site.
There are many different types of dating scam in this regard. For example there is the 1900 phone number scam. Here, the gorgeous girl you met at the website gets you to call a 1900 number and encourages a long phone call. You pay a fortune for the phone call, she makes money from the phone call. She never wants to meet you, if she met you, you wouldn't have to call and she'd stop making money.
Another breed gets you to join their personal website so you can view her on the webcam. The webcam is pay per view so every time you talk with her, you pay. Once again, she'll never meet you in real life. Why would she? She'll stop getting paid if she does.
And then there are scammers who are looking for a way out of their country. Yes, these scammers can be pretty persuasive, but if you are looking for an international introduction, an adult dating site is not the right place to be. Go to a profession international introductions site where the professionals who run it will protect you to some degree from being scammed.
The one thing I can suggest to all men who join adult dating sites is to remember what you went there for. All these scams manipulate you into doing something different. You didn't sign up for phone sex, for webchat or for a protracted engagement with an attractive 3rd world female. You joined to meet someone to meet in real life. There are so many women at theses sites, reject the ones that take you down the merry path.
The rewards of adult dating sites are pretty much the same for men and women. Its simple really. The people who join these sites are very open and honest about what they are looking for both sexually and romantically. It can sometimes be very "in your face", but this means that when you find someone you like, you know what they want, they know what you want, so the chances are really high that you'll get exactly what you are looking for. (which is probably something I can't write about here)
So be careful what you wish for! ;-) - 15437
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen, worried with the risks within adult dating, advises everyone reviews adult dating sites before joining any.
