Tell me if this sounds familiar.
You see a gorgeous girl, head over to her, and start up a conversation.
Things seem to be going great. She's responding well to you, but then, all of a sudden, something happens...
You run out of stuff to say!
And the awkward pause ensues. And before you know it, the girl excuses herself and moves on.
Let me tell you - this type of thing happens ALL THE TIME.
And it typically happens because most guys just don't know how to talk to girls! They may have their first couple of lines ready to go to get the conversation started, but after that, they are just "winging it."
But all too often, when it gets to the point where they have to talk to the girl, and they don't have anything already thought out, their bran STALLS, and the conversation dies a slow and painful death.
Not too many people realize that there is an art to conversation. Getting it started is one thing, but keeping it going is quite another all together.
If you have ever been in a situation where your conversation with a girl has gone south before you could get her phone number, you know what I am talking about.
So then, how does one keep the conversation from faltering? Surprisingly, once you realize a few things it's pretty simple.
Questions, by their nature, are the basis upon which conversations are built. Everyone one you ask will allow you to delve into a newer and exciting part of an interaction.
The problem is that most guys ask the WRONG questions.
They ask your typical "boring" questions like "what's your name?" "where do you live?" "what do you do for work?" Blah, blah, blah.
Now, these aren't bad questions - after all, you'll need this information at some point - but you can't rely on questions like these to keep an initial conversation healthy!
Instead, you have to ask fun, interesting questions that will actually engage the girl, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like...
"Hey, do you work with kids by any chance? You have that really loving kindergarten teacher vibe to you. I bet you love small animals too."
In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was - but we took a guess that it had to do with kids. Whether we were right or not is irrelevant. Either way, she'll let us know what she does.
We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it. We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious.
Finally, we pointed out a "feeling" she gave us. This can lead us into a conversation about HER.
And this is the real key in talking to girls - make the conversation about HER. That isn't to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you're actually INTERESTED in her.
And as we all know - girls LOVE to talk about themselves.
Ask the right questions, and things will continue in the right direction. Keep it focused on her, who she is, and what she likes, and you'll have an easier time. - 15437
You see a gorgeous girl, head over to her, and start up a conversation.
Things seem to be going great. She's responding well to you, but then, all of a sudden, something happens...
You run out of stuff to say!
And the awkward pause ensues. And before you know it, the girl excuses herself and moves on.
Let me tell you - this type of thing happens ALL THE TIME.
And it typically happens because most guys just don't know how to talk to girls! They may have their first couple of lines ready to go to get the conversation started, but after that, they are just "winging it."
But all too often, when it gets to the point where they have to talk to the girl, and they don't have anything already thought out, their bran STALLS, and the conversation dies a slow and painful death.
Not too many people realize that there is an art to conversation. Getting it started is one thing, but keeping it going is quite another all together.
If you have ever been in a situation where your conversation with a girl has gone south before you could get her phone number, you know what I am talking about.
So then, how does one keep the conversation from faltering? Surprisingly, once you realize a few things it's pretty simple.
Questions, by their nature, are the basis upon which conversations are built. Everyone one you ask will allow you to delve into a newer and exciting part of an interaction.
The problem is that most guys ask the WRONG questions.
They ask your typical "boring" questions like "what's your name?" "where do you live?" "what do you do for work?" Blah, blah, blah.
Now, these aren't bad questions - after all, you'll need this information at some point - but you can't rely on questions like these to keep an initial conversation healthy!
Instead, you have to ask fun, interesting questions that will actually engage the girl, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like...
"Hey, do you work with kids by any chance? You have that really loving kindergarten teacher vibe to you. I bet you love small animals too."
In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was - but we took a guess that it had to do with kids. Whether we were right or not is irrelevant. Either way, she'll let us know what she does.
We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it. We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious.
Finally, we pointed out a "feeling" she gave us. This can lead us into a conversation about HER.
And this is the real key in talking to girls - make the conversation about HER. That isn't to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you're actually INTERESTED in her.
And as we all know - girls LOVE to talk about themselves.
Ask the right questions, and things will continue in the right direction. Keep it focused on her, who she is, and what she likes, and you'll have an easier time. - 15437
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