There is a lot of advice and information about internet dating out there. Trying to digest it all can be quite difficult and even scary if you get caught up in too much of the "What can go wrong" type of information out there.
So I am writing today to remind you dating isn't all about danger, or scammers, it's just meeting people. You are trying to meet people whose company you can enjoy. So here are my 3 big tips on how you can date using web based tools AND have fun.
Firstly, think about what you are doing. Most people jump straight into any old dating site, meet a million people and never really get anywhere as these people don't have anything relevant to offer. So be a little different here and think about who you want to date and the experiences you want to share. Write it down if you like, to keep you on the straight and narrow.
You will get a lot of advice from people when you start to go down this route. IGNORE them. They have all kinds of different and irrelevant motivations for giving you their advice. You are the only one who knows what is right for you right now though.
Trust your own judgement and enjoy the results of your own decisions. Every date will not work out perfectly and we all have relationships which fail. But this is a good thing. It helps you understand yourself, learn what you need in life and recognise it when it arrives. Much better you learn these lessons for you rather than learn someone else's lessons.
Tip 2. Having noted the type of person and experience you want, only go to dating sites which cater for those specifics. Ignore the general dating sites that attract every man and his dog, only join niche ones which attract the people you are looking for. That is, use the dating site itself to qualify your potential dates.
You don't have to go to a general dating site where it is much more hit and miss. Some examples of specific dating sites include: Adult Dating Sites for an open and steamy experience; Asian Dating Sites if you are attracted to eastern culture; Christian Dating Sites if christian values are important in your partner; Gay and Lesbian Dating Sites if you are looking for a same sex partner; Jewish Dating Sites if jewish values are important in your partner; Seniors Dating Sites if you are looking for a mature partner; Dating Sites for the Tall, for when size matters; Dating Wealthy Partners for a more sophisticated experience
My third and final tip is to always keep it safe. You'll never have a fun time if you're not feeling safe. So apply common sense and your own set of safety precautions to all real life dating experiences.
Never escalate with someone that you are not yet comfortable with or don't feel safe with. This means don't give your email address or phone number to someone who hasn't won your confidence on the dating site. Following that, don't meet someone who has not made you feel comfortable when communicating by email or phone. Finally, never meet someone privately when they did not make you feel safe in the public meeting. This all sounds like common sense, but it is always harder when you are in the middle of it and getting pressured by the person on the other end, so be strong.
After that first meeting you are no longer internet dating, so your experience should progress along the same lines as any developing relationship.
Dating should always be fun, you are finding out about yourself and others. For greatest success though remember - Safe, Specific and Simple. - 15437
So I am writing today to remind you dating isn't all about danger, or scammers, it's just meeting people. You are trying to meet people whose company you can enjoy. So here are my 3 big tips on how you can date using web based tools AND have fun.
Firstly, think about what you are doing. Most people jump straight into any old dating site, meet a million people and never really get anywhere as these people don't have anything relevant to offer. So be a little different here and think about who you want to date and the experiences you want to share. Write it down if you like, to keep you on the straight and narrow.
You will get a lot of advice from people when you start to go down this route. IGNORE them. They have all kinds of different and irrelevant motivations for giving you their advice. You are the only one who knows what is right for you right now though.
Trust your own judgement and enjoy the results of your own decisions. Every date will not work out perfectly and we all have relationships which fail. But this is a good thing. It helps you understand yourself, learn what you need in life and recognise it when it arrives. Much better you learn these lessons for you rather than learn someone else's lessons.
Tip 2. Having noted the type of person and experience you want, only go to dating sites which cater for those specifics. Ignore the general dating sites that attract every man and his dog, only join niche ones which attract the people you are looking for. That is, use the dating site itself to qualify your potential dates.
You don't have to go to a general dating site where it is much more hit and miss. Some examples of specific dating sites include: Adult Dating Sites for an open and steamy experience; Asian Dating Sites if you are attracted to eastern culture; Christian Dating Sites if christian values are important in your partner; Gay and Lesbian Dating Sites if you are looking for a same sex partner; Jewish Dating Sites if jewish values are important in your partner; Seniors Dating Sites if you are looking for a mature partner; Dating Sites for the Tall, for when size matters; Dating Wealthy Partners for a more sophisticated experience
My third and final tip is to always keep it safe. You'll never have a fun time if you're not feeling safe. So apply common sense and your own set of safety precautions to all real life dating experiences.
Never escalate with someone that you are not yet comfortable with or don't feel safe with. This means don't give your email address or phone number to someone who hasn't won your confidence on the dating site. Following that, don't meet someone who has not made you feel comfortable when communicating by email or phone. Finally, never meet someone privately when they did not make you feel safe in the public meeting. This all sounds like common sense, but it is always harder when you are in the middle of it and getting pressured by the person on the other end, so be strong.
After that first meeting you are no longer internet dating, so your experience should progress along the same lines as any developing relationship.
Dating should always be fun, you are finding out about yourself and others. For greatest success though remember - Safe, Specific and Simple. - 15437
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen has assisted many find true love, by giving real dating advice and giving dating site reviews.
