When you have broken up, there are any number of theories about how to get your ex back. Our natural urges often times are to try to make them jealous or to use tricks and gimmicks to try to get them back.
Many of our plans involve head games. Pretending that you've got a date or stalking them so you can "bump" into them at the supermarket. Games like this almost always create more problems and pressure for your ex. There are other, more natural and honest ways to get your ex back.
Instead, you can keep in touch in friendly ways without stalking! One way is by email. If there is a news story he or she might enjoy " whether it is about a favorite celebrity or politics " send it to them with a nice (short) note. You can also start an email list where you send out information, jokes, or personal updates to a group of friends and make sure your ex is on the responder list.
You also have to decide whether you want to want to date other people during the period when you are trying to win back your ex. It can be very good for you to date so that you don't mope around, but do not follow bad advice like try to make your ex jealous by flaunting a new potential mate. Playing games like this will not serve you well when you do get back together.
And what if you find your ex is dating others? Try not to be jealous. After all, they aren't cheating on you since they ended your relationship. And when they are out on a date, they may start to miss you compared to this new person.
However, if you do find out they are dating, you can learn something from the type of people they are dating. If you were very business oriented and practical, and they are dating artistic types, you may need to develop or show other traits to help win your ex back.
Build your self esteem and self image while you are working to get your ex back. Keep up a regular exercise regimen. This helps you to feel and look better. And develop new hobbies and interests. Take a class. Get out and volunteer. You meet new people, you feel better, and this is good for you and it helps your ex see you in more positive ways.
Doing a few simple things like this can help you to get your ex back without the gimmicks. If you can stay positive, friendly and focused, you can win your ex back better than if you are desperate and needy. And, if you learn some immediate reconnect strategies available at bookstores or on the internet, you can often take steps to get your ex back in days instead of months. - 15437
Many of our plans involve head games. Pretending that you've got a date or stalking them so you can "bump" into them at the supermarket. Games like this almost always create more problems and pressure for your ex. There are other, more natural and honest ways to get your ex back.
Instead, you can keep in touch in friendly ways without stalking! One way is by email. If there is a news story he or she might enjoy " whether it is about a favorite celebrity or politics " send it to them with a nice (short) note. You can also start an email list where you send out information, jokes, or personal updates to a group of friends and make sure your ex is on the responder list.
You also have to decide whether you want to want to date other people during the period when you are trying to win back your ex. It can be very good for you to date so that you don't mope around, but do not follow bad advice like try to make your ex jealous by flaunting a new potential mate. Playing games like this will not serve you well when you do get back together.
And what if you find your ex is dating others? Try not to be jealous. After all, they aren't cheating on you since they ended your relationship. And when they are out on a date, they may start to miss you compared to this new person.
However, if you do find out they are dating, you can learn something from the type of people they are dating. If you were very business oriented and practical, and they are dating artistic types, you may need to develop or show other traits to help win your ex back.
Build your self esteem and self image while you are working to get your ex back. Keep up a regular exercise regimen. This helps you to feel and look better. And develop new hobbies and interests. Take a class. Get out and volunteer. You meet new people, you feel better, and this is good for you and it helps your ex see you in more positive ways.
Doing a few simple things like this can help you to get your ex back without the gimmicks. If you can stay positive, friendly and focused, you can win your ex back better than if you are desperate and needy. And, if you learn some immediate reconnect strategies available at bookstores or on the internet, you can often take steps to get your ex back in days instead of months. - 15437
About the Author:
You can discover Powerful Proven Methods to get your ex back in a book about Relationship Help To Get Your Ex Back. John Laney teaches relationship and intelligence courses and you can get a free course here on Solve Love Relationship Issues.
