Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Is Adult Dating Safe or Dangerous?

By Dianne Logan

Adult dating had become very popular due to the convenience of contacting people from all over the world through the Internet. Adult dating websites had mushroomed, with many of them charging substantial fees to help people meet and date. However, there is a lingering doubt as to whether adult dating is absolutely safe. If you wish to know whether adult dating is safe or dangerous, consider the following points to make your own conclusions.

1. The first risk in adult dating arises due to your own mental block. You are afraid of the emotional attachment that might be involved in adult dating. This could be due to your basic shy nature or hesitant mentality or even the trauma of a recent break-up. If you had approached another person at an earlier point of time and had been rejected and humiliated, this could have a deep impression on you and make you hesitant. If you had gone through a painful break-up of relationship recently, then you would definitely need some time for the wound to heal. However, you had to remember that these things are only temporary. They need not prevent you at all from active dating.

2. The next major risk in adult dating is in not knowing about your date completely. Even the most cruel and bad people appear to be quite ordinary on the surface. Further, they invariably hide their real intentions, even if they wish to date others and eventually hurt them. There is no instrument to find out the innate cruelty hidden in humans. It could be understood and realized only over a period of time, after a close relationship. Still, finding out common interests and individual preferences before becoming too much attached is not a difficult proposition. You had to be careful to find out everything possible about your dating partner before you allow yourself to become emotionally attached and involved with your date.

3. The third risk in adult dating is the danger of HIV and STD. Aids and sexually transmitted diseases are indeed a big threat nowadays. Too much physical relationships with several persons always increase the risk of contracting such diseases. Hence, you should avoid physical intercourse with your date until you are sure that the other person is completely safe in all aspects.

4. People who always complain about everything incessantly would never feel satisfied with whatever you do. You should keep a distance from such persons.

5. If your date is keeping several credit cards and spending a lot of money on unnecessary purchases and expenditures, then it might be difficult to cope with such a person. A chronic spendthrift usually never changes. All your income and wealth might not be sufficient for your date. Avoid such persons.

6. One more clue to the nature of your date might be in his/her wardrobe or closet. If your date is a man and he is having lot of girly dresses, then his preferences might be different. The same is true of a woman having lot of macho dresses and boots. There would not be much point in continuing with such a person, whose tastes would never match with yours.

If you watch out for the above and a few more other serious pitfalls in adult dating, then adult dating would be quite safe and never dangerous. - 15437

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