There are lots of reasons that relationships break up. Two of the three main reasons relationships break up are that you wronged your mate or they wronged you. If you cheated on your ex or fought with them too much, you wronged them. If they committed infidelity or were too controlling, for example, they wronged you.
If, for example, your ex cheated on you or you cheated on them, there is a very important strategy you can use to get them back that can work in hours instead of weeks or months. This strategy is called venting. Venting is when you or someone else gets things off their chest. What does this have to do with getting your ex back fast?
Because their good feelings towards you have now been replaced by bad ones. Hurt, anger, sadness. That's obvious. So the question becomes, how can you help them to release those negative feelings besides wait six months to see if they get over it? Is there a way to speed up the process of resolving negative feelings?
The way to resolve bad feelings fast is to vent them. To get them off one's chest. If they cheated on you, you need to vent to them. If you cheated on your ex, they have some negative feelings they will drag around for a long time unless you help them to vent. To oversimplify, you call them up and ask them how they feel about what you did to them. Then be silent and let them put their emotions into words and start getting them off their chest.
Look at it like a balloon filling with the hot air of negative feelings. You want to prick the balloon by inviting your ex to vent. It's not hard, but it takes a bit of practice. You want to make them feel heard and understood. You don't argue or explain or defend yourself.
This same key works in reverse. If they cheated on you, for example, and you want them back, you need to vent your negative emotions to them by asking them to just listen and not defend or explain. Then tell them how what they did made you feel. You've got to be able to clear your own negative feelings before you can start to trust again.
You already know about this tool. You've probably used it many times over a beer with a friend getting things off your chest about work or your personal life, for example.
Using the tool of venting to get your ex back, along with a few others, can allow you to clear the air and resolve your issues much more quickly. Instead of waiting months hoping they get over it, you can usually get them back starting in just hours from now. - 15437
If, for example, your ex cheated on you or you cheated on them, there is a very important strategy you can use to get them back that can work in hours instead of weeks or months. This strategy is called venting. Venting is when you or someone else gets things off their chest. What does this have to do with getting your ex back fast?
Because their good feelings towards you have now been replaced by bad ones. Hurt, anger, sadness. That's obvious. So the question becomes, how can you help them to release those negative feelings besides wait six months to see if they get over it? Is there a way to speed up the process of resolving negative feelings?
The way to resolve bad feelings fast is to vent them. To get them off one's chest. If they cheated on you, you need to vent to them. If you cheated on your ex, they have some negative feelings they will drag around for a long time unless you help them to vent. To oversimplify, you call them up and ask them how they feel about what you did to them. Then be silent and let them put their emotions into words and start getting them off their chest.
Look at it like a balloon filling with the hot air of negative feelings. You want to prick the balloon by inviting your ex to vent. It's not hard, but it takes a bit of practice. You want to make them feel heard and understood. You don't argue or explain or defend yourself.
This same key works in reverse. If they cheated on you, for example, and you want them back, you need to vent your negative emotions to them by asking them to just listen and not defend or explain. Then tell them how what they did made you feel. You've got to be able to clear your own negative feelings before you can start to trust again.
You already know about this tool. You've probably used it many times over a beer with a friend getting things off your chest about work or your personal life, for example.
Using the tool of venting to get your ex back, along with a few others, can allow you to clear the air and resolve your issues much more quickly. Instead of waiting months hoping they get over it, you can usually get them back starting in just hours from now. - 15437
About the Author:
You can discover more about venting and the other Proven Reconnect Methods to get your ex back in a book about How To Get Your Love Back In One Day. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never discovered In School here at Relationship Problems Advice.
