When you conjure up the image of an "attractive guy" in your mind, what kind of qualities do you think he possesses?
Is he tall? Good looking? Blonde? Big muscles?
Maybe you even picture a famous actor, like Brad Pitt or Josh Hartnett.
Whatever image comes to your mind, all you have to remember is that it is most likely WRONG.
See, it takes more than physical good looks to attract the kinds of women you desire to you. Sure, good looks help, but if you don't have anything beyond that, you're going to have a hard time.
Understand that the most attractive traits a man can possess has nothing to do with his physical appearance, and EVERYTHING to do with his personality!
The reason for this is because a person's personality is what influences the emotions of the people around him.
A guy who is outgoing, engaging, and fun will have people FLOCK to him, because he makes them feel good and have a good time.
And when you break everything down, having a good time with someone else is the fundamental building block of attraction!
That is why humor is so important. A guy who can make a girl laugh will be able to generate all kinds of fun, positive emotions inside her.
And I always like to say - if you can get a girl to have fun with you, you can get her to sleep with you!
So let's talk about what I mean when I say "Humor." Because strangely enough, lots of guys don't understand this.
Humor isn't about cracking jokes, or even being very funny - so if you feel you have absolutely no comedic talent what so ever, don't worry, you can still use humor to your advantage.
See, humor is really about making people feel GOOD.
"You're in good humor today". Have you ever heard that phrase? It's a reflection of positive and happy feelings. Being humorous is about bringing out those feelings in others.
And when you think about it, isn't that all comedians do?
So when it comes to using humor with women, don't worry about trying to make her laugh. It'll come naturally. First of all - be sure to project positive emotions.
Smile at her. Relax. Lighten up. Give her a few compliments. Ask her some genuine questions about herself.
Tell her stories about who you are that are interesting.
And don't be afraid to joke around. Tease her. Make some fun of yourself. Play some games with her.
Play against expectations, and try not to go along with what she's normally expecting from you. This is where the "funny" part of humor comes into play.
For instance, if you're at dinner, and the waiter asks you what you'd like to drink, you can turn to your date and say "If I get a beer, you won't try and take advantage of me when I'm in my inebriated state, will you? 'Cause I don't put out on the first date!"
When you say that with a wink and a nod, girls will respond humorously to it, because you're doing a role reversal.
If she teases you, instead of trying to defend yourself, go along with it. If she says "Oh my God, you are such a dork!" you could say "Yeah, wait until you see my pocket protector and embarassingly large collection of Star Wars figurines. Then you'll get really turned on. Don't lie, I know you're totally into Dork Love."
That's so much cool and more of a fun response than saying something like "I'm not a dork, you're the dork." You play along, then you turn the tease into something positive.
Most importantly, you have to keep a playful attitude the entire time you do this. You can't take yourself (or your date) too seriously, otherwise you won't have a good time. Laugh at yourself, laugh at her, and relax about it.
If you say something that comes off the wrong way, you can address it and say: "Eww, that didn't come out right. Sorry, I was trying to be funny." Typically, when you acknowledge a bad joke, people will allow you to recover from it. This is something comedians do all the time. Just watch an episode of Late Night With Conan O'Brien. He tends to do this in every monologue!
A good sense of humor will go a long way when you are trying to create attraction in a woman. Have a good time and the humor will come naturally. - 15437
Is he tall? Good looking? Blonde? Big muscles?
Maybe you even picture a famous actor, like Brad Pitt or Josh Hartnett.
Whatever image comes to your mind, all you have to remember is that it is most likely WRONG.
See, it takes more than physical good looks to attract the kinds of women you desire to you. Sure, good looks help, but if you don't have anything beyond that, you're going to have a hard time.
Understand that the most attractive traits a man can possess has nothing to do with his physical appearance, and EVERYTHING to do with his personality!
The reason for this is because a person's personality is what influences the emotions of the people around him.
A guy who is outgoing, engaging, and fun will have people FLOCK to him, because he makes them feel good and have a good time.
And when you break everything down, having a good time with someone else is the fundamental building block of attraction!
That is why humor is so important. A guy who can make a girl laugh will be able to generate all kinds of fun, positive emotions inside her.
And I always like to say - if you can get a girl to have fun with you, you can get her to sleep with you!
So let's talk about what I mean when I say "Humor." Because strangely enough, lots of guys don't understand this.
Humor isn't about cracking jokes, or even being very funny - so if you feel you have absolutely no comedic talent what so ever, don't worry, you can still use humor to your advantage.
See, humor is really about making people feel GOOD.
"You're in good humor today". Have you ever heard that phrase? It's a reflection of positive and happy feelings. Being humorous is about bringing out those feelings in others.
And when you think about it, isn't that all comedians do?
So when it comes to using humor with women, don't worry about trying to make her laugh. It'll come naturally. First of all - be sure to project positive emotions.
Smile at her. Relax. Lighten up. Give her a few compliments. Ask her some genuine questions about herself.
Tell her stories about who you are that are interesting.
And don't be afraid to joke around. Tease her. Make some fun of yourself. Play some games with her.
Play against expectations, and try not to go along with what she's normally expecting from you. This is where the "funny" part of humor comes into play.
For instance, if you're at dinner, and the waiter asks you what you'd like to drink, you can turn to your date and say "If I get a beer, you won't try and take advantage of me when I'm in my inebriated state, will you? 'Cause I don't put out on the first date!"
When you say that with a wink and a nod, girls will respond humorously to it, because you're doing a role reversal.
If she teases you, instead of trying to defend yourself, go along with it. If she says "Oh my God, you are such a dork!" you could say "Yeah, wait until you see my pocket protector and embarassingly large collection of Star Wars figurines. Then you'll get really turned on. Don't lie, I know you're totally into Dork Love."
That's so much cool and more of a fun response than saying something like "I'm not a dork, you're the dork." You play along, then you turn the tease into something positive.
Most importantly, you have to keep a playful attitude the entire time you do this. You can't take yourself (or your date) too seriously, otherwise you won't have a good time. Laugh at yourself, laugh at her, and relax about it.
If you say something that comes off the wrong way, you can address it and say: "Eww, that didn't come out right. Sorry, I was trying to be funny." Typically, when you acknowledge a bad joke, people will allow you to recover from it. This is something comedians do all the time. Just watch an episode of Late Night With Conan O'Brien. He tends to do this in every monologue!
A good sense of humor will go a long way when you are trying to create attraction in a woman. Have a good time and the humor will come naturally. - 15437
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