If you've tried online dating, I'm sure this scenario is familiar to you:
You find a great site - aesthetically pleasing, and the pictures of the female members are rather enticing. You start looking around more and begin to think "this place is pretty good!" So you create a profile, write a letter to a nice looking woman, hit send, and...
They want money.
It's not a lot of money normally, but you can see the issue. Some sites won't let you even browse without laying down a credit card. Others tease you like the one above, allow you to the door then slam it in your face.
The reason for this is pretty obvious. These pay dating sites are taking advantage of the fact that this is a HUGE industry. The amount of traffic dictates that you have a valuable commodity. Someone finally slapped a price tag on it.
What do you do about this? Well, the good news is that there are quite a few FREE dating sites out there. That's right, not a penny to join.
There are some other wonderful upsides to these sites, and some downsides too though. I'll show you the perks and show you how to deal with the issues.
One of the better perks is that you can see EVERYONE on these sites. All the pictures, and you can get a feel about someone without having to jump through hoops.
The down side of this is that there is a LOT of bad profiles. Many that don't have pictures, or have pictures that are either old, or fake. Since these fakers can set up as many free profiles as they want, they tend to do a lot of them. Why? There are a multitude of reasons, but only a few apply here.
The primary way to deal with this is to be specific in what you are looking for, first and foremost.
Do you like blondes? Then search for blondes only. Start specific, then generalize upwards. And ONLY search profiles with pictures, if that is an option.
Second, if a picture looks a little too professional, then there is a good chance it is fake. If it looks like a picture from a magazine, and it isn't accompanied by a more realistic picture of the person from normal life, then count on it being a bad profile.
The last thing to watch for are solicitations. Rule of thumb: if they want you to leave the site, or email them off of it, then forget it.
You should be able to weed out the good from the bad easily, with some practice. This is important, as you don't want to spend too much time having to weed through the multitude of profiles you encounter.
That brings me to another issue- high traffic means high competition. If a profile of a very attractive woman goes up, rest assured she'll get bombarded with emails, more than she can read. She'll be able to set some high standards. Don't fret though, you can come out ahead of the curve, if you understand what to say.
The key is to get her attention fast. First and foremost, have a picture. Period. No picture, no response, I can guarantee you this.
Next, you need to quickly catch her attention with what you've written, and not appear typical. See my website for more information.
Make sure to mind your manners as well. Although I HOPE this should be obvious, I can guarantee you that a classy woman isn't going to want to date some guy who starts off with a lewd solicitation.
Heeding the above should allow you to separate yourself from the first wave of riffraff she'll encounter.
One final tip: don't get discouraged! You'll get some no replies, and some flat out "no" answers, but remember it's a huge numbers game. Get out there, hit it hard and you'll be rewarded.
So which free sites are good? It's always changing. I have done well with plentyoffish.com. I have friends who like okcupid.com as well. Just do a search, and if the site seems legit, give it a whirl! - 15437
You find a great site - aesthetically pleasing, and the pictures of the female members are rather enticing. You start looking around more and begin to think "this place is pretty good!" So you create a profile, write a letter to a nice looking woman, hit send, and...
They want money.
It's not a lot of money normally, but you can see the issue. Some sites won't let you even browse without laying down a credit card. Others tease you like the one above, allow you to the door then slam it in your face.
The reason for this is pretty obvious. These pay dating sites are taking advantage of the fact that this is a HUGE industry. The amount of traffic dictates that you have a valuable commodity. Someone finally slapped a price tag on it.
What do you do about this? Well, the good news is that there are quite a few FREE dating sites out there. That's right, not a penny to join.
There are some other wonderful upsides to these sites, and some downsides too though. I'll show you the perks and show you how to deal with the issues.
One of the better perks is that you can see EVERYONE on these sites. All the pictures, and you can get a feel about someone without having to jump through hoops.
The down side of this is that there is a LOT of bad profiles. Many that don't have pictures, or have pictures that are either old, or fake. Since these fakers can set up as many free profiles as they want, they tend to do a lot of them. Why? There are a multitude of reasons, but only a few apply here.
The primary way to deal with this is to be specific in what you are looking for, first and foremost.
Do you like blondes? Then search for blondes only. Start specific, then generalize upwards. And ONLY search profiles with pictures, if that is an option.
Second, if a picture looks a little too professional, then there is a good chance it is fake. If it looks like a picture from a magazine, and it isn't accompanied by a more realistic picture of the person from normal life, then count on it being a bad profile.
The last thing to watch for are solicitations. Rule of thumb: if they want you to leave the site, or email them off of it, then forget it.
You should be able to weed out the good from the bad easily, with some practice. This is important, as you don't want to spend too much time having to weed through the multitude of profiles you encounter.
That brings me to another issue- high traffic means high competition. If a profile of a very attractive woman goes up, rest assured she'll get bombarded with emails, more than she can read. She'll be able to set some high standards. Don't fret though, you can come out ahead of the curve, if you understand what to say.
The key is to get her attention fast. First and foremost, have a picture. Period. No picture, no response, I can guarantee you this.
Next, you need to quickly catch her attention with what you've written, and not appear typical. See my website for more information.
Make sure to mind your manners as well. Although I HOPE this should be obvious, I can guarantee you that a classy woman isn't going to want to date some guy who starts off with a lewd solicitation.
Heeding the above should allow you to separate yourself from the first wave of riffraff she'll encounter.
One final tip: don't get discouraged! You'll get some no replies, and some flat out "no" answers, but remember it's a huge numbers game. Get out there, hit it hard and you'll be rewarded.
So which free sites are good? It's always changing. I have done well with plentyoffish.com. I have friends who like okcupid.com as well. Just do a search, and if the site seems legit, give it a whirl! - 15437
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