In the dating scene, when we are faced with so much rejection and insecurity, it can be easy to give into bad emotions.
We'll feel we're too ugly, old, short, bald, fat, or whatever, and we'll be doomed to being single for the rest of our lives.
But the issue here isn't that we're unattractive. It's that we're beating ourselves up over our own insecurities! And if we give into these negative emotions, its going to be hard to find someone to be with, because no woman wants to be around a guy who hates himself.
This is why, as much as possible, it is important to inject lots of positivity into our lives.
In order to do this, you need to learn how to replace your bad thoughts, with good ones. If you begin to repeat these good thoughts, eventually you'll train yourself to focus on the positive, rather than the negative.
Every morning after you wake up, and every evening before you go to bed, try and rehearse these positive thoughts in your mind, or out loud...
1. The more I like myself, the more others will like me.
2. I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do.
3. I am highly creative, intelligent, attractive, energetic, witty, smart, healthy, wealthy and wise.
4. I love myself unconditionally just as I am - despite any flaws I may have.
5. I am self-sufficient, and do not rely on the approval of others to feel good about myself.
6. I feel comfortable around other people.
7. Other people like me and enjoy my presence.
8. I am fun and exciting to be with because I always have a good time.
9. I am comfortable talking to women.
10. I am comfortable interacting with women.
11. Women to whom I pay attention are extremely lucky - I am what women want.
12. I do not feel guilty about my desires.
13. I have to look my best all the time.
14. Women must prove themselves worthy of my time and attention in order to receive it. I am the prize.
15. Any woman would be lucky to have a great guy like me in their life.
Some guys might not feel authentic when reciting these positive thoughts. Sometimes, we become so used to negative emotions, they feel more comfortable than the positive ones!
Be aware that this isn't about trying to fool yourself into feeling good. This is about conditioning yourself to think in a way that gives you confidence and strength, rather than tearing apart your self-esteem.
You can change any of the above thoughts to suit you if you don't feel comfortable with any of them. Anything is acceptable as long as the change re-enforces a positive thought and emotion.
Understand that people are attracted to positivity. You can't attract women if you don't like yourself, because if you don't think you're someone who deserves happiness, who else will? - 15437
We'll feel we're too ugly, old, short, bald, fat, or whatever, and we'll be doomed to being single for the rest of our lives.
But the issue here isn't that we're unattractive. It's that we're beating ourselves up over our own insecurities! And if we give into these negative emotions, its going to be hard to find someone to be with, because no woman wants to be around a guy who hates himself.
This is why, as much as possible, it is important to inject lots of positivity into our lives.
In order to do this, you need to learn how to replace your bad thoughts, with good ones. If you begin to repeat these good thoughts, eventually you'll train yourself to focus on the positive, rather than the negative.
Every morning after you wake up, and every evening before you go to bed, try and rehearse these positive thoughts in your mind, or out loud...
1. The more I like myself, the more others will like me.
2. I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do.
3. I am highly creative, intelligent, attractive, energetic, witty, smart, healthy, wealthy and wise.
4. I love myself unconditionally just as I am - despite any flaws I may have.
5. I am self-sufficient, and do not rely on the approval of others to feel good about myself.
6. I feel comfortable around other people.
7. Other people like me and enjoy my presence.
8. I am fun and exciting to be with because I always have a good time.
9. I am comfortable talking to women.
10. I am comfortable interacting with women.
11. Women to whom I pay attention are extremely lucky - I am what women want.
12. I do not feel guilty about my desires.
13. I have to look my best all the time.
14. Women must prove themselves worthy of my time and attention in order to receive it. I am the prize.
15. Any woman would be lucky to have a great guy like me in their life.
Some guys might not feel authentic when reciting these positive thoughts. Sometimes, we become so used to negative emotions, they feel more comfortable than the positive ones!
Be aware that this isn't about trying to fool yourself into feeling good. This is about conditioning yourself to think in a way that gives you confidence and strength, rather than tearing apart your self-esteem.
You can change any of the above thoughts to suit you if you don't feel comfortable with any of them. Anything is acceptable as long as the change re-enforces a positive thought and emotion.
Understand that people are attracted to positivity. You can't attract women if you don't like yourself, because if you don't think you're someone who deserves happiness, who else will? - 15437
About the Author:
Joseph Matthews has been teaching guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the subject of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to discover more about how to meet women, check out his free newsletter.
