You may not be the greatest with women. Whether you just got out of a relationship or just never had a good track record, the end result is apparent: you don't feel comfortable when you are trying to attract a beautiful woman. And unfortunately, the burden is almost always on the man to make the first move, which puts you in a difficult position. Luckily there a few things you can do that tip things back into your favor. Some of the strategies below can help you in your endeavors.
One of the best things that you can do is have a wingman. A wingman is a friend who's willing to help you meet someone, usually at the expense of his own luck that evening, and if you find someone who's willing to do this for you and is good at it to boot, don't let him go! A wingman can do things for you like walk over and say, "My buddy's been watching you all evening." Essentially, it's his job to talk you up and make you look good and it can make a huge difference.
You will also want to learn a little about body language. Once you know a little bit, the rest tends to come naturally. When a girl is interested in you, she will turn her whole body towards you. If you are chatting a woman up and she's only turning her head to hear what you have to say, you might have found someone who's just not interested. Conversely, if she's into you, you'll find that she turns her back on the rest of the gathering and gives you her full attention. Try speaking a little more softly; if she's into you, she'll lean closer instead of just asking "What?"
When you are looking to start a conversation, a compliment is a great way to do it, but be sincere. Every girl has heard the full gamut of pick up lines, and while there's nothing wrong with them exactly, there is the fact that they sound canned. Women like to be thought of as special, and it especially helps if you can target something that you think she's put some time and effort into. Everyone likes to be recognized for their efforts, and with a little bit of luck, you'll be able to show her this.
Remember that whether you've spent the last hour flattering her, or you've bought her plenty of drinks that this does not entitle you to a single thing. You can ask whatever you like, but it's important not to sound whiny or desperate; this is simply a sign for her to take off... or call over her big, protective male friends! If someone says she's not interested, shrug, smile, and say that you just wanted her to know that she was beautiful, or that she should enjoy the drink. There's a better than average chance that this will make her reconsider, and even if she doesn't, one of her friends might be picking up the ball where she dropped it!
If things go well and kissing starts to look eminent, be cautious. Surprising her with a kiss can get you into trouble, so avoid them. Getting slapped is not a goal of yours hopefully, nor getting a load of male friends breathing down your neck. Try simply asking her "May I kiss you?" You'll be surprised at how effective it is. If she asks why, tell her you have a feeling she'd be great at it. When it happens, let her get into it as much as she wants. If she initiates more contact, go with it, but beyond that just let her dictate how it goes. Do let her know you won't mind doing more. She'll know you are into her and be impressed with your restraint.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to seduce women; just work with the technique that makes it your own and go into it with some confidence. In a lot of ways, confidence is the name of the game, and you're not going anywhere without it! - 15437
One of the best things that you can do is have a wingman. A wingman is a friend who's willing to help you meet someone, usually at the expense of his own luck that evening, and if you find someone who's willing to do this for you and is good at it to boot, don't let him go! A wingman can do things for you like walk over and say, "My buddy's been watching you all evening." Essentially, it's his job to talk you up and make you look good and it can make a huge difference.
You will also want to learn a little about body language. Once you know a little bit, the rest tends to come naturally. When a girl is interested in you, she will turn her whole body towards you. If you are chatting a woman up and she's only turning her head to hear what you have to say, you might have found someone who's just not interested. Conversely, if she's into you, you'll find that she turns her back on the rest of the gathering and gives you her full attention. Try speaking a little more softly; if she's into you, she'll lean closer instead of just asking "What?"
When you are looking to start a conversation, a compliment is a great way to do it, but be sincere. Every girl has heard the full gamut of pick up lines, and while there's nothing wrong with them exactly, there is the fact that they sound canned. Women like to be thought of as special, and it especially helps if you can target something that you think she's put some time and effort into. Everyone likes to be recognized for their efforts, and with a little bit of luck, you'll be able to show her this.
Remember that whether you've spent the last hour flattering her, or you've bought her plenty of drinks that this does not entitle you to a single thing. You can ask whatever you like, but it's important not to sound whiny or desperate; this is simply a sign for her to take off... or call over her big, protective male friends! If someone says she's not interested, shrug, smile, and say that you just wanted her to know that she was beautiful, or that she should enjoy the drink. There's a better than average chance that this will make her reconsider, and even if she doesn't, one of her friends might be picking up the ball where she dropped it!
If things go well and kissing starts to look eminent, be cautious. Surprising her with a kiss can get you into trouble, so avoid them. Getting slapped is not a goal of yours hopefully, nor getting a load of male friends breathing down your neck. Try simply asking her "May I kiss you?" You'll be surprised at how effective it is. If she asks why, tell her you have a feeling she'd be great at it. When it happens, let her get into it as much as she wants. If she initiates more contact, go with it, but beyond that just let her dictate how it goes. Do let her know you won't mind doing more. She'll know you are into her and be impressed with your restraint.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to seduce women; just work with the technique that makes it your own and go into it with some confidence. In a lot of ways, confidence is the name of the game, and you're not going anywhere without it! - 15437
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