Picking up a woman in a book store does seem a bit cliche. Believe it or not, it does happen. Granted, going from the first hello to exchanging phone numbers and making plans for a second date can be tricky. You don't want to rush things, but letting her slip way is bad too. These tips should help you out with this.
#1. Go to a large store. The smaller stores, especially independents, might be close but they have a few drawbacks that create problems for you. They are cramped, and often times even have books lying on the ground. If it's a busy day, employees may be rushing through the tiny aisles. There's a good chance they'll get in your way. Making an approach in there can be like doing an obstacle course. I stick to the bigger stores, like a Barnes and Nobles or Borders. They have wider aisles, comfortable chairs, and great coffee. In other words, greater for making approaches.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. Generally speaking, you are better off approaching someone who is browsing the aisles than someone who is immersed thoroughly in a book. If she's seated comfortably and appears in deep thought, leave her alone. Think about it - do you want to make that interruption the first impression she has of you? The beauty of approaching the browsing woman is that you have topics already at your finger tips, from second tip.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
While it's just five simple tips, they'll go a long way in helping you meet women in a book store. Just remember to keep it simple. Be yourself - if you put on an act it can backfire very easily. - 15437
#1. Go to a large store. The smaller stores, especially independents, might be close but they have a few drawbacks that create problems for you. They are cramped, and often times even have books lying on the ground. If it's a busy day, employees may be rushing through the tiny aisles. There's a good chance they'll get in your way. Making an approach in there can be like doing an obstacle course. I stick to the bigger stores, like a Barnes and Nobles or Borders. They have wider aisles, comfortable chairs, and great coffee. In other words, greater for making approaches.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. Generally speaking, you are better off approaching someone who is browsing the aisles than someone who is immersed thoroughly in a book. If she's seated comfortably and appears in deep thought, leave her alone. Think about it - do you want to make that interruption the first impression she has of you? The beauty of approaching the browsing woman is that you have topics already at your finger tips, from second tip.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
While it's just five simple tips, they'll go a long way in helping you meet women in a book store. Just remember to keep it simple. Be yourself - if you put on an act it can backfire very easily. - 15437
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