You know, one of the things I am having problems dealing with is talk to women on the phone.
Its not just me. I know many other men who fear calling that number they got the other night in the club.
And it's not because we don't want to talk to that woman or get to know her. It's because calling a girl on the phone is CRUCIAL.
It can seriously make or break you. A good call will guarantee a date. A bad will will ensure she never returns your messages again.
One of the biggest questions I get from guys is "What do I say when I'm talking to her on the phone?" Seriously, it's as though their minds go blank and they can barely squeeze out the boring, awkward questions most guys fall back on when they're at a loss for something to talk about.
The reason this happens is because so many guys just have little to no experience when talking to a girl. Because of this, they just are not confident about what to say.
This lack of confidence used to hinder me when I was on the phone. I'd just sit there and let the girl do all the talking! But these single-sided conversations do little for making an effective emotional connection necessary to get a date.
So I developed a little trick to help me get comfortable talking to a girl on the phone. My suggestion to build confidence is to find a helper -- a female friend who loves to talk!
(And let's face it - most women are happy to talk your ear off when given the chance!)
What you do is call this friend before you call the other girl that you're interested in. Talking to her will help you get in a "social mood" that will give you the edge you need.
This way, you can build your confidence on someone who doesn't mean anything at all for the one that does.
If you don't have a good female friend, you can try "warming up" by calling a male friend instead.
The important thing here is that you GET TALKING. The more you talk, the easier it'll be to start chatting with new people.
And when it comes to impressing the girl, that can make all the difference. - 15437
Its not just me. I know many other men who fear calling that number they got the other night in the club.
And it's not because we don't want to talk to that woman or get to know her. It's because calling a girl on the phone is CRUCIAL.
It can seriously make or break you. A good call will guarantee a date. A bad will will ensure she never returns your messages again.
One of the biggest questions I get from guys is "What do I say when I'm talking to her on the phone?" Seriously, it's as though their minds go blank and they can barely squeeze out the boring, awkward questions most guys fall back on when they're at a loss for something to talk about.
The reason this happens is because so many guys just have little to no experience when talking to a girl. Because of this, they just are not confident about what to say.
This lack of confidence used to hinder me when I was on the phone. I'd just sit there and let the girl do all the talking! But these single-sided conversations do little for making an effective emotional connection necessary to get a date.
So I developed a little trick to help me get comfortable talking to a girl on the phone. My suggestion to build confidence is to find a helper -- a female friend who loves to talk!
(And let's face it - most women are happy to talk your ear off when given the chance!)
What you do is call this friend before you call the other girl that you're interested in. Talking to her will help you get in a "social mood" that will give you the edge you need.
This way, you can build your confidence on someone who doesn't mean anything at all for the one that does.
If you don't have a good female friend, you can try "warming up" by calling a male friend instead.
The important thing here is that you GET TALKING. The more you talk, the easier it'll be to start chatting with new people.
And when it comes to impressing the girl, that can make all the difference. - 15437
About the Author:
Joseph Matthews has been teaching guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely recognized as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, check out his free newsletter.
