Have you noticed that different dating sites have different fee structures? For example, I've come across many dating sites that charge a monthly recurring fee to their members. For these websites to be successful, they depend on their members continuing their memberships for months and months on end. This then depends on their members being active on the dating scene for months on end. Without judging this, I believe it begs the question, why are you dating?
Are you dating to find that someone special? If you are, you would not need to be a member of a dating service for months at a time. Rather, you would want to join a dating service that sells (or gives) contacts with people.
That way you would only spend your money when you needed to meet new people. You'd then have the luxury of getting to know them at your own pace without paying an extra cent. If you meet someone wonderful and it all works out, great. If down the track you realise the person you were dating was not for you, you can revisit the dating site months or even years later and use or buy your credits to meet new people. The point is though that you don't need to spend monthly fees in the meantime.
That might not be you though. You might be dating to meet and enjoy lots and lots of people. This is entirely valid too. A good example of this would be for someone who is working in a foreign city for a medium but finite term, Ie. 12 months or so. You may want to meet and have fun with lots of people, but not really go too deep into a relationship. In this case, joining a subscription type site would probably be the best idea for you, as the subscription sites offer unlimited contacts. Ie. Once you are a member, you can contact as many people as you want.
Regardless of the type of dating you are into at the moment, the point of this article is to point out that the different membership structures give you different opportunities. So you need to think about the reason you are dating before you join a dating site. This will give you the opportunity to join the dating site whose payment structure suits your purpose.
I have found that most subscription based membership sites are of the adult nature. I don't believe this should hold you back though if you are looking to meet lots and lots of people. There are plenty of people on adult sites who are not fully into the promiscuous side of it. You just need to be clear about where your boundaries are and how fast you like to progress things.
As a final point, its interesting that the people who have the least success in dating are typically those who run headlong into something and end up in a place surrounded by inappropriate people. So before you spend any money on dating, think and work out who you want to meet. Only at this point will you be able to join the appropriate dating site. - 15437
Are you dating to find that someone special? If you are, you would not need to be a member of a dating service for months at a time. Rather, you would want to join a dating service that sells (or gives) contacts with people.
That way you would only spend your money when you needed to meet new people. You'd then have the luxury of getting to know them at your own pace without paying an extra cent. If you meet someone wonderful and it all works out, great. If down the track you realise the person you were dating was not for you, you can revisit the dating site months or even years later and use or buy your credits to meet new people. The point is though that you don't need to spend monthly fees in the meantime.
That might not be you though. You might be dating to meet and enjoy lots and lots of people. This is entirely valid too. A good example of this would be for someone who is working in a foreign city for a medium but finite term, Ie. 12 months or so. You may want to meet and have fun with lots of people, but not really go too deep into a relationship. In this case, joining a subscription type site would probably be the best idea for you, as the subscription sites offer unlimited contacts. Ie. Once you are a member, you can contact as many people as you want.
Regardless of the type of dating you are into at the moment, the point of this article is to point out that the different membership structures give you different opportunities. So you need to think about the reason you are dating before you join a dating site. This will give you the opportunity to join the dating site whose payment structure suits your purpose.
I have found that most subscription based membership sites are of the adult nature. I don't believe this should hold you back though if you are looking to meet lots and lots of people. There are plenty of people on adult sites who are not fully into the promiscuous side of it. You just need to be clear about where your boundaries are and how fast you like to progress things.
As a final point, its interesting that the people who have the least success in dating are typically those who run headlong into something and end up in a place surrounded by inappropriate people. So before you spend any money on dating, think and work out who you want to meet. Only at this point will you be able to join the appropriate dating site. - 15437
About the Author:
Jayde Johannsen reviews regular dating sites and adult dating sites, in an attempt to guide everyone find those they are looking for.
