Going for a cup of coffee has become a part of our every day lives, especially over the past 10 to 15 years. These places are everywhere... a Starbucks or independent coffee shop on every corner. People know their stuff now, and odds are you spend some time during the week waiting in line at your local coffee shop. And of course, you might wonder if it's a good place to meet women. Good news... it is! You can even get them to meet you outside of there... here are some tips on doing so.
#1. If she is having trouble deciding what to order from the menu and turns to apologize, always be gracious. She is probably feeling very embarrassed. If she is truly sorry you can offer to help her decide what to order. Sentences like "I come here all the time, what were you thinking of ordering? I can tell you if it's good or not," are good openers. This can work in the opposite situation. If you can't make up your mind, you can ask the woman behind you what kind of coffee drinks she likes and then you have the bonus option of buying her coffee "to make up for taking so long to decide."
#2. Someone who is reading or writing by themselves should be approached gingerly. Most people don't like being interrupted if doing these things, despite the fact that they might be in a crowded coffee shop. The only exception is if there are no open tables. If she looks up a lot while reading, go ahead and ask her about the book and what she thinks of it. Don't lie to her about having read it; that can only come back to hurt you later on.
#3. When you are standing next to a woman at the sugar stand, you can ask her to pass you something-you can easily play it off as being polite-you didn't want to get in her way. Politeness goes a long way with women. The same is true for if she is reaching for something closer to your side of the stand. Grab it for her with a simple "here you go." And the conversation can go from there.
#4. If you are feeling bold, you can always sit down next to her table and if she is having a conversation with someone, you can interject your own opinion and then join in the conversation. This is something with which you should be cautious. Not all groups of people are going to want to open up their conversation to the person at the next table, and if she is with a group of women, you need to be extra careful.
#5. If you are walking toward the trash can or the bussing station with your coffee cup, walk past her table and offer to take her empty coffee cup up with yours. Then, when you go back by her table, you can pause for a chat.
#6. If the woman you are attempting to speak with is a barista at the coffee shop, make sure to compliment her on the coffee, even if she just poured it from a carafe. A little compliment followed by a thanks will go far. This is great for shy guys too - you can make a habit of going in while she's working. You'll become familiar enough with each other that you can get a conversation happening on it's own. Careful here though: you can cross over from regular customer to creepy stalker really easily if you mess things up.
Coffee shops are great, but they can be intimidating. The good news is that it is possible to meet nice women there. All it takes is some creativity combined with a bit of guts, and the willingness to start the conversation. - 15437
#1. If she is having trouble deciding what to order from the menu and turns to apologize, always be gracious. She is probably feeling very embarrassed. If she is truly sorry you can offer to help her decide what to order. Sentences like "I come here all the time, what were you thinking of ordering? I can tell you if it's good or not," are good openers. This can work in the opposite situation. If you can't make up your mind, you can ask the woman behind you what kind of coffee drinks she likes and then you have the bonus option of buying her coffee "to make up for taking so long to decide."
#2. Someone who is reading or writing by themselves should be approached gingerly. Most people don't like being interrupted if doing these things, despite the fact that they might be in a crowded coffee shop. The only exception is if there are no open tables. If she looks up a lot while reading, go ahead and ask her about the book and what she thinks of it. Don't lie to her about having read it; that can only come back to hurt you later on.
#3. When you are standing next to a woman at the sugar stand, you can ask her to pass you something-you can easily play it off as being polite-you didn't want to get in her way. Politeness goes a long way with women. The same is true for if she is reaching for something closer to your side of the stand. Grab it for her with a simple "here you go." And the conversation can go from there.
#4. If you are feeling bold, you can always sit down next to her table and if she is having a conversation with someone, you can interject your own opinion and then join in the conversation. This is something with which you should be cautious. Not all groups of people are going to want to open up their conversation to the person at the next table, and if she is with a group of women, you need to be extra careful.
#5. If you are walking toward the trash can or the bussing station with your coffee cup, walk past her table and offer to take her empty coffee cup up with yours. Then, when you go back by her table, you can pause for a chat.
#6. If the woman you are attempting to speak with is a barista at the coffee shop, make sure to compliment her on the coffee, even if she just poured it from a carafe. A little compliment followed by a thanks will go far. This is great for shy guys too - you can make a habit of going in while she's working. You'll become familiar enough with each other that you can get a conversation happening on it's own. Careful here though: you can cross over from regular customer to creepy stalker really easily if you mess things up.
Coffee shops are great, but they can be intimidating. The good news is that it is possible to meet nice women there. All it takes is some creativity combined with a bit of guts, and the willingness to start the conversation. - 15437
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