Conflict can kill a marriage over time. So it pays off to learn how to reduce conflict and to learn to argue in a healthy way. Shows like Dr Phil and lots of books and courses can teach you to fight fair and to minimize the damage conflict causes to your marriage.
So learning to turn conflict into caresses, fight fair, and go for win win are good skills to develop that will reward you long term with a better marriage. But what if there was a way to stop conflict before it started? What if there was a way to reduce the conflict in your marriage by over 50%?
There is a way to do this that is powerful, effective, and you dont need to take a class on conflict to do it. Even better, you can put it to use in your marriage to minimize conflict starting just minutes after you finish this article. This method is a secret that almost no one talks about. Are you ready? A remarkable way to stop conflict before it begins is to PLAY MORE with your mate.
Play is the secret weapon against conflict! The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Remember at the start of your relationship? You played all the time with your partner. You had sex, went to dinner, danced, had lots of sexual activity. In the falling in love stage there was lots more playing than fighting.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
You can experiment with this yourself for the next month. Add play back in with your spouse. Go on at least one date night a week where you enjoy each other and leave the burdens of adulthood aside for a few hours. Begin to have more playful, spontaneous sex occasionally. Carve out a few times a week where you play together.
There is a lot more to this, but adding more play into your marriage will improve the quality of your relationship. For some couples it may be a struggle at first, due to all the fighting youve been doing you may not find it easy to relax and start playing again, but that doesnt negate the power of this secret weapon for reducing conflict. Have fun, play some, and see for yourself how your relationship begins to change. - 15437
So learning to turn conflict into caresses, fight fair, and go for win win are good skills to develop that will reward you long term with a better marriage. But what if there was a way to stop conflict before it started? What if there was a way to reduce the conflict in your marriage by over 50%?
There is a way to do this that is powerful, effective, and you dont need to take a class on conflict to do it. Even better, you can put it to use in your marriage to minimize conflict starting just minutes after you finish this article. This method is a secret that almost no one talks about. Are you ready? A remarkable way to stop conflict before it begins is to PLAY MORE with your mate.
Play is the secret weapon against conflict! The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Remember at the start of your relationship? You played all the time with your partner. You had sex, went to dinner, danced, had lots of sexual activity. In the falling in love stage there was lots more playing than fighting.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
You can experiment with this yourself for the next month. Add play back in with your spouse. Go on at least one date night a week where you enjoy each other and leave the burdens of adulthood aside for a few hours. Begin to have more playful, spontaneous sex occasionally. Carve out a few times a week where you play together.
There is a lot more to this, but adding more play into your marriage will improve the quality of your relationship. For some couples it may be a struggle at first, due to all the fighting youve been doing you may not find it easy to relax and start playing again, but that doesnt negate the power of this secret weapon for reducing conflict. Have fun, play some, and see for yourself how your relationship begins to change. - 15437
About the Author:
You can learn a lot more marriage advice in a book about Marriage Advice To Save Your Marriage. Johnnie S Laney teaches courses on relationship intelligence. You can get a free course on 7 Vital Relationship Insights here at Marriage Advice Secrets.
