A difficult part of the dating game lies in dealing with other guys. They are out there too, looking to find themselves a girl, and many of them won't hesitate to mess things up for you in order to get what they want!
Beyond that, it can be a tough situation because you will often be competing with guys who have an advantage over you, whether it be their wealth or physical assets.
But you will always have to face it - the competition is ALWAYS there!
The fear you'll face when dealing with competion can be boiled down to two root causes - Insecurity and Jealousy.
When you are insecure, you're always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and steal your girl.
This often shows up as a combination of feelings that make you worry about losing your girl, and at the same time worrying about not being able to find another one if you DO lose her.
Then, as if things weren't bad enough, you go out with your girl, and other guys start hitting on her right in front of you.
This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the REAL problem... JEALOUSY.
These emotions take over your mind and body, and can trigger some of the most short-sighted behaviors you'll ever experience. When you react to these feelings of jealousy and insecurity, you can actually DRIVE AWAY the woman you desire.
Most men are insecure, and generally speaking, women don't like jealous men with an overblown sense of insecurity.
So how should a man deal with this? What's the best way to deal with another guy trying to move in on your girl?
1) Realize that there's nothing to be insecure and jealous about, and that these things only lead to fear and loss.
2) Get your game in shape with women. Get yourself to the point where you can meet women in ANY situation. This way you always know DEEP DOWN that if any woman you're with ever decides to leave, you can turn around and start meeting new women. This eliminates insecurity.
3) Mentally prepare. Take some time to imagine that you're in one of these situations, and notice the feelings you have. Go over it in your mind until you can think about it without having any negative emotions triggered.
And if you ever find yourself in a situation where you're actually dealing with direct competition from another man - like he's hitting on your girl right in front of you, here's what you can do...
1) EXPECT IT. If you start dating hot women, other men WILL hit on them, GUARANTEED. It's part of life. You must expect that it's going to happen and not be surprised when it does.
2) Learn how to have FUN with it. Most guys have no game at all, and it's kind of funny to watch and listen to them. I enjoy watching guys try to meet women, because they FAIL miserably in most cases. I like to wait until a guy is finished trying to pick up on the girl I'm with, and then get her to share the details so I can laugh.
3) Suggest that she date the guy who's hitting on her. One of my favorite things to do is say, "Hey, you guys would make a cute couple! I totally think you should go for him." Of course, this is all said in a light, fun way.
4) If you suspect that the girl you're with is actually TRYING to make you jealous, talk to other women. If you actually think that a woman is deliberately trying to make you jealous, you must do some thinking as well. Some women enjoy making men compete over them and you probably don't want to be with one of these women. They're a pain. But if you think it's just a typical situation and the girl is trying to figure out if you "really" like her (because you'll get jealous if you do), then just turn around and start a conversation with a group of girls, and wait for her to come and find you.
Truth be told, there is nothing to fear. Hold to this truth and let go of your fear, insecurity, and jealousy.
The only power that another guy will have with your date stems from power that you allow them to have. If you act jealous, you're playing right into their hands. So don't extend them the courtesy of giving them a leg to stand on. They are hitting on your girl because they don't have one for themselves. - 15437
Beyond that, it can be a tough situation because you will often be competing with guys who have an advantage over you, whether it be their wealth or physical assets.
But you will always have to face it - the competition is ALWAYS there!
The fear you'll face when dealing with competion can be boiled down to two root causes - Insecurity and Jealousy.
When you are insecure, you're always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and steal your girl.
This often shows up as a combination of feelings that make you worry about losing your girl, and at the same time worrying about not being able to find another one if you DO lose her.
Then, as if things weren't bad enough, you go out with your girl, and other guys start hitting on her right in front of you.
This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the REAL problem... JEALOUSY.
These emotions take over your mind and body, and can trigger some of the most short-sighted behaviors you'll ever experience. When you react to these feelings of jealousy and insecurity, you can actually DRIVE AWAY the woman you desire.
Most men are insecure, and generally speaking, women don't like jealous men with an overblown sense of insecurity.
So how should a man deal with this? What's the best way to deal with another guy trying to move in on your girl?
1) Realize that there's nothing to be insecure and jealous about, and that these things only lead to fear and loss.
2) Get your game in shape with women. Get yourself to the point where you can meet women in ANY situation. This way you always know DEEP DOWN that if any woman you're with ever decides to leave, you can turn around and start meeting new women. This eliminates insecurity.
3) Mentally prepare. Take some time to imagine that you're in one of these situations, and notice the feelings you have. Go over it in your mind until you can think about it without having any negative emotions triggered.
And if you ever find yourself in a situation where you're actually dealing with direct competition from another man - like he's hitting on your girl right in front of you, here's what you can do...
1) EXPECT IT. If you start dating hot women, other men WILL hit on them, GUARANTEED. It's part of life. You must expect that it's going to happen and not be surprised when it does.
2) Learn how to have FUN with it. Most guys have no game at all, and it's kind of funny to watch and listen to them. I enjoy watching guys try to meet women, because they FAIL miserably in most cases. I like to wait until a guy is finished trying to pick up on the girl I'm with, and then get her to share the details so I can laugh.
3) Suggest that she date the guy who's hitting on her. One of my favorite things to do is say, "Hey, you guys would make a cute couple! I totally think you should go for him." Of course, this is all said in a light, fun way.
4) If you suspect that the girl you're with is actually TRYING to make you jealous, talk to other women. If you actually think that a woman is deliberately trying to make you jealous, you must do some thinking as well. Some women enjoy making men compete over them and you probably don't want to be with one of these women. They're a pain. But if you think it's just a typical situation and the girl is trying to figure out if you "really" like her (because you'll get jealous if you do), then just turn around and start a conversation with a group of girls, and wait for her to come and find you.
Truth be told, there is nothing to fear. Hold to this truth and let go of your fear, insecurity, and jealousy.
The only power that another guy will have with your date stems from power that you allow them to have. If you act jealous, you're playing right into their hands. So don't extend them the courtesy of giving them a leg to stand on. They are hitting on your girl because they don't have one for themselves. - 15437
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