Monday, February 16, 2009

Learn To Get Ex Back In 3 Simple Steps.

By Kendall Makono

Unfortunately, as normal adults, we've all had to go through at least one breakup. Funny thing, it's one of the few things in our lives that doesn't get easier with practice. no matter how may times you do it, breakups never get easy.

After a breakup, unless the relationship was completely terrible, most people desire to get their ex back. In fact, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they still desire to get their ex back. If your relationship included physical violence, let it die and consider yourself lucky.

Do you believe, your relationship is worth salvaging? If so, you need some answers on how get your ex back. Here are four steps you can take.

First, say you're sorry.

Breakups are preceded by fights and we all say and do things worth apologizing for - do it - it's one of the most effective opening moves to get your ex back. Even if it seems not to accomplish much, it's an effective move because it shows a willingness to take part of the blame. but, be sure to apologize for the right reasons. It's easy to fall into the trap of blaming ourselves for everything.

Don't get drawn into an argument. The biggest problem with apologizing is that it can so easily lead to another fight. Stay focused and don't get defensive. keep calm and keep you emotions, pride and ego in check.

The next step is to - give some space

This may seem counter-intuitive to how get your ex back. You have to remember just because you want to talk to them or see them, doesn't mean they do. It is crucial to allow the partner some space. A brief time away from each other, before you try to win them back, will give you both time to cool down and a chance for them to miss you. If you're in touch with them all the time, they won't be able to miss you.

The last step is...Show them you care about yourself

Prove to them that you care about yourself. If you seem desperate, clingy, and whiny, you will not succeed. If you sit around the house waiting for them to call or keep checking your email every few minutes hoping to get their message, you're not doing yourself any favors. Hang out with friends. Go to movies, go to concerts, go to the mall. Whatever, just get up and get out and live your life.

It's best if you're not there when your ex calls. Then they'll be wondering what you're doing. If you're out and your cell rings and its your ex, don't answer it. Let the call go to voice mail. The best thing to do is wait until the next day to call them back. Tell them you were busy, and you didn't have time to call them back. This will probably shock them. You may even be able to get them to pursue you again.

These are just the opening steps, for more information and a plan that almost always works, see my signature file and click the link... - 15437

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