Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Without Driving Him Further Away!

By Dmitri Fortine

Ok, your relationship collapsed. Hang in there! With the right techniques and a well thought out plan, you CAN get him back!

First, you are going to want to ask yourself four vital questions. These are really important questions when it comes to figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend back.

- Was the breakup caused by a bunch of minor things, or something really big?

- Is it even really appropriate to argue about this matter right now? Or could you let it go - to save the relationship.

- Would a victory in the argument be worth the damage to your relationship?

- was your difficulty due to something you could have easily solved but it built to something major because of inattention?

After careful consideration, could you apologize if it was your fault or let it slide if it was his? Many break ups can be prevented or quickly rekindled if a large argument is settled. Surprisingly enough, many breakup inducing argument are really completely unnecessary. Frequently they could be cast aside if only the parties involved could let the tension slide and move on.

Emotionally and mentally distancing yourself from your ex is an important step in learning how to get your ex boyfriend back. While this may seem counterintuitive, it is actually important to take yourself out of the situation mentally, removing the stress associated with the break up. When you are feeling more calmed and relaxed, and he is feeling the same, this is when true resolution can finally become a part of the dialog between the two of you.

Getting away from the heat of the battle and clearing your heads (both of you) will allow you to better analyze the situation.

To rekindle the flame just takes the patience and civility to really talk things through - most breakups are easily undone.

These are just the opening steps, there's a lot more involved to get your ex boyfriend back without driving him away. Click the link in my signature file to learn the rest of the necessary - but easy to do - steps... - 15437

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