One of the hardest things for guys to do is know when to make their move at the end of a date. This changes the more experienced you get with women, but if you're just starting out or getting back into the dating scene, knowing when to go in for a kiss could be a difficult prospect.
The secret to discovering when (and if) a girl is ready for you to kiss her comes down to a single factor - observation.
You need to be aware of the woman's body language and behaviors, because these will be the things that give you the clues to proceed.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure about whether or not she's attracted to you -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance to kiss is due to shyness (but she likes you) or plain old disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The point I'm trying to hammer home here is this: you CAN figure out her emotional state by putting her into situations where she can't avoid sharing some body language signals about her feelings -- either negative or positive.
Once you've analyzed the situation and you think it's okay to kiss her, then square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in. Do everything deliberately. Don't say anything unless it is unusually profound or funny.
Don't forget - confidence is the key factor here! Even if you're insanely nervous about kissing her, try and appear to be as confident as you possibly can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her exactly what your intentions are when you go to kiss her!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
Many women rate that first kiss as a vital indicator of your potential as a boyfriend. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and manliness, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good love match or not! If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively and smoothly, then you'll score some big points at the end of the date. - 15437
The secret to discovering when (and if) a girl is ready for you to kiss her comes down to a single factor - observation.
You need to be aware of the woman's body language and behaviors, because these will be the things that give you the clues to proceed.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure about whether or not she's attracted to you -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance to kiss is due to shyness (but she likes you) or plain old disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The point I'm trying to hammer home here is this: you CAN figure out her emotional state by putting her into situations where she can't avoid sharing some body language signals about her feelings -- either negative or positive.
Once you've analyzed the situation and you think it's okay to kiss her, then square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in. Do everything deliberately. Don't say anything unless it is unusually profound or funny.
Don't forget - confidence is the key factor here! Even if you're insanely nervous about kissing her, try and appear to be as confident as you possibly can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her exactly what your intentions are when you go to kiss her!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
Many women rate that first kiss as a vital indicator of your potential as a boyfriend. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and manliness, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good love match or not! If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively and smoothly, then you'll score some big points at the end of the date. - 15437
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