Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Divorcing? Don't Get Taken Advantage Of! CLICK HERE!

By Jon D. Alexander, Esq.

I am an orange county, California divorce lawyer and this article is one in a series that explains and details the divorce process. Subscribe to my newest newsletter today, which is linked below, and you will have access to all of my articles. This information is not intended as and should not be relied upon as legal advice or the creation of an attorney-client relationship. However, please feel free to contact me at Jon@OC-family lawyers.com to set up a free, confidential half-hour consultation. Thank you for reading.

Divorce sometimes comes as a surprise in but more often than this result of a conflict that's been building up over a long period of time.

irregardless of how it actually occurs, it's important you take steps to protect yourself and your children and your finances. And please note that there is a wrong way and a right way to do this. If you follow the steps outlined below you will protect your interests in a manner that is both fair and reasonable.

Sadly, in divorce one spouse is often at a disadvantage and suffers detriment due to unequal bargaining power. If you follow these steps, however, you will not be disadvantaged. In a perfect world, you and your spouse would be able to workout all of your problems and reach a compromise in a reasonable fashion. Unfortunately, things often become adversarial. Follow the steps outlined below to protect your interests. Be aware, though, that you should make a good-faith effort to reach a compromise with your spouse before acting rashly.

To protect your children, if you have them, you must immediately: (1) : obtain a TRO; (2) not allow your spouse to take your children and leave; (3) not leave the family home; and (4) insist upon a 50-50 split for child custody. Get a temporary restraining order immediately. Make sure that specifically prevents your spouse for taking the children out of state. You do not want a multi-state custody battle. doing this also prevents number two above the TRO will prevent your spouse from leaving with the children. Third, do not move out of the family home because if you do this may seriously impair your ability to obtain custody.

if you already moved out, however, move back in today. While this may cause additional stress you will be safeguarding your custody rights. Fourth, do not agree to less than 50% custody. Your spouse doesn't have a better right or greater right to custody and you do. Furthermore, if you agree to less than 50% custody you will be setting a precedent for the future. Insist upon a 50% split.

Next, to protect your finances and yourself: Visit my site linked below to find out how to protect yourself and your finances. This article is contained in its entirety at my website and while you're there please sign up for my newsletter! Thank you. Very truly yours, Jon D. Alexander, Esq. - 15437

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