Online dating has one really great advantage over the meeting someone for the first time off-line, i.e. on a street (bar, museum, party, wherever). In dating on web you already know something on the person you are about to meet. This is especially important for those of us, who are shy. It is easy to beat the fear of rejection, when you already made some steps.
Preliminary message exchange, on-line chat and phone talks help to overcome the shyness, which can make dating impossible otherwise. For the same time, you didnt have a personal contact with this man or woman before, so all that you are relying upon is a photo and the information, which your partner passed to you. Personal meeting is your only way to fill the blanks.
Deciding at a right moment to meet her or him in person is a key to successful online dating. There is always such point in every online romance. When the time is right? On this you will have to rely on your own intuition. If you will miss that moment, likely the whole virtual exchange will die-out.
Your initial exchange with new friend should give you enough to decide whether you want to go further or not. As soon as you are getting to the last conclusion, the connection must be closed. Too long virtual flirting will not do much good. Here are the reasons:
1. When you feel that this particular pen pal of yours is not the one you were looking for, you have to quit the exchange at once. You dont need to give another person any false illusions, and you dont want to know better that person too - because this will make quitting harder. No matter how hard it may seem to say "no" sometime, it is always better to say it instead of getting dragged into a pointless and lengthy exchange. Do not wait, make your move as soon as you feel that this is not your match.
2. If you have delayed the real meeting, you are giving a chance to your imagination to fill the blanks. Idealization will take place, and imagining the partner as a better match will substitute your judgment which could be based on actual experience from live meeting. Such idealization can lead you to certain problems in the future, in case if the real person when materialized will not fulfill all expectations and virtues, which you have given to your imaginary friend.
Internet dating networks provide everyone with thousands and thousands of excellent candidates for a date. So there is no need to waste each others time on a lengthy email exchange or pointless chat. Two, maybe three message exchanges and go to a real meeting, why wait? Either you will find each other and be happy, or move on, find somebody else, and be happy. Make it a win-win situation!
Good luck! - 15437
Preliminary message exchange, on-line chat and phone talks help to overcome the shyness, which can make dating impossible otherwise. For the same time, you didnt have a personal contact with this man or woman before, so all that you are relying upon is a photo and the information, which your partner passed to you. Personal meeting is your only way to fill the blanks.
Deciding at a right moment to meet her or him in person is a key to successful online dating. There is always such point in every online romance. When the time is right? On this you will have to rely on your own intuition. If you will miss that moment, likely the whole virtual exchange will die-out.
Your initial exchange with new friend should give you enough to decide whether you want to go further or not. As soon as you are getting to the last conclusion, the connection must be closed. Too long virtual flirting will not do much good. Here are the reasons:
1. When you feel that this particular pen pal of yours is not the one you were looking for, you have to quit the exchange at once. You dont need to give another person any false illusions, and you dont want to know better that person too - because this will make quitting harder. No matter how hard it may seem to say "no" sometime, it is always better to say it instead of getting dragged into a pointless and lengthy exchange. Do not wait, make your move as soon as you feel that this is not your match.
2. If you have delayed the real meeting, you are giving a chance to your imagination to fill the blanks. Idealization will take place, and imagining the partner as a better match will substitute your judgment which could be based on actual experience from live meeting. Such idealization can lead you to certain problems in the future, in case if the real person when materialized will not fulfill all expectations and virtues, which you have given to your imaginary friend.
Internet dating networks provide everyone with thousands and thousands of excellent candidates for a date. So there is no need to waste each others time on a lengthy email exchange or pointless chat. Two, maybe three message exchanges and go to a real meeting, why wait? Either you will find each other and be happy, or move on, find somebody else, and be happy. Make it a win-win situation!
Good luck! - 15437
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