Motivation. If you are a single parent " do you really need to fall in love? Probably you already have too many issues in your life, but the answer is still yes! Can you give your children love in full, if your own love has not bloomed for a quite awhile? Sure, this is not the same thing, but I am also sure that your children want you to be happy as much, as you want it yourself. Because of love people feel happier, look nicer and live longer. So, if love comes to you, everybody wins, including those whom you love most of all in this world: your children! So, for start you need strong motivation for dating again, something like I just said, or something else that you have to find for yourself.
Be prepared. So, lets assume that you agree with all that is said above (or, perhaps you have other reasons), and so yes, you are going to date someone, again. Are you ready? Here are several simple checks. First, do you have any negative feelings about your former friend (husband, wife)? Get rid of them: you dont want to pass old stuff into your new relationship. Second, are you fond of yourself? Yes, you should be! If not, find a way to fix this condition, I am sure you have a plenty of reasons to change your attitude towards yourself. Value yourself, groom yourself, love yourself, those are necessary ingredients for seeking love from another person. Finally, it is possible that it was an eternity since you dated someone, many things had changed, so you need relatively gradual immersion into your new state: online dating will help you, because the pace of the process will be under your total control.
How much it costs? Oh well, you have motivation and you are prepared, but here is another problem: you do not really feel that you can afford it. Fortunately, dating online will save you tenfold vs. old-fashioned approach just by the very nature and logistics of web dating. If you are not familiar yet with internet dating, just think how you can access literally thousands of profiles of potential candidates without any expense except for very moderate membership fee. Yes, you will save a lot on gas, food, drink, time, but most important you will save on almost guaranteed exclusion of dating a wrong person. Is not that priceless? Moreover, you can sign-up for single parents clubs and find someone in your area with similar interests.
About your children. Yes, what about them? Do you have to keep them informed about your dating activities? If yes, how far this should go? The subject is subtle. From one hand, yes, you have to keep your kids posted about your dating life (especially in the case if you might get late home). For another, you dont have to let them any control of it, because they may attempt to gain it some way or another. Dont let them to prevent you from dating: children may be driven by a simple jealousy, so you have to be firm in your actions and it will pass. And by no means dont let them to decide for you whom you should date, because this is your life and it is you who is making decisions.
Your children and your new friend. Sooner or later your dating will turn into a durable relationship and you will have to introduce your children to your new friend. First, you just have to tell them about him or her. You dont need any surprises, neither you want somebody else telling them about it. The first meeting must be short, pleasant and free of anything artificial. No need to push any side for a great friendship, it should develop naturally and in time. Children should feel comfortably in new conditions: you have to assure them that there will be no change in your feelings toward them and you will care about them as always. After the first meeting ask kids their opinion. You must always be open and sincere with your children on this subject.
About you and your new friend children. You have to ask your friend about her or his kids: names, age, what they like to do, what they dont like, etc. By all means avoid having the first meeting at their place: children shall not feel that you are a threat to their living space. There are few more things to avoid: saying or showing anything negative about their other parent and acting artificially (kids will feel any pretentiousness a mile away). Ask your friend what kind of presents will be a good idea to bring, make your gifts not too expensive (neither too cheap). If it will happen that a child is cold with you, dont take an offense, be a grownup: if you will handle all difficulties maturely and with a good sense of humor, you will succeed.
Last tip. Just one more thing. Dont hurry to get married again, weight everything and take time for reflections and thoughts, and most of all, enjoy your life! - 15437
Be prepared. So, lets assume that you agree with all that is said above (or, perhaps you have other reasons), and so yes, you are going to date someone, again. Are you ready? Here are several simple checks. First, do you have any negative feelings about your former friend (husband, wife)? Get rid of them: you dont want to pass old stuff into your new relationship. Second, are you fond of yourself? Yes, you should be! If not, find a way to fix this condition, I am sure you have a plenty of reasons to change your attitude towards yourself. Value yourself, groom yourself, love yourself, those are necessary ingredients for seeking love from another person. Finally, it is possible that it was an eternity since you dated someone, many things had changed, so you need relatively gradual immersion into your new state: online dating will help you, because the pace of the process will be under your total control.
How much it costs? Oh well, you have motivation and you are prepared, but here is another problem: you do not really feel that you can afford it. Fortunately, dating online will save you tenfold vs. old-fashioned approach just by the very nature and logistics of web dating. If you are not familiar yet with internet dating, just think how you can access literally thousands of profiles of potential candidates without any expense except for very moderate membership fee. Yes, you will save a lot on gas, food, drink, time, but most important you will save on almost guaranteed exclusion of dating a wrong person. Is not that priceless? Moreover, you can sign-up for single parents clubs and find someone in your area with similar interests.
About your children. Yes, what about them? Do you have to keep them informed about your dating activities? If yes, how far this should go? The subject is subtle. From one hand, yes, you have to keep your kids posted about your dating life (especially in the case if you might get late home). For another, you dont have to let them any control of it, because they may attempt to gain it some way or another. Dont let them to prevent you from dating: children may be driven by a simple jealousy, so you have to be firm in your actions and it will pass. And by no means dont let them to decide for you whom you should date, because this is your life and it is you who is making decisions.
Your children and your new friend. Sooner or later your dating will turn into a durable relationship and you will have to introduce your children to your new friend. First, you just have to tell them about him or her. You dont need any surprises, neither you want somebody else telling them about it. The first meeting must be short, pleasant and free of anything artificial. No need to push any side for a great friendship, it should develop naturally and in time. Children should feel comfortably in new conditions: you have to assure them that there will be no change in your feelings toward them and you will care about them as always. After the first meeting ask kids their opinion. You must always be open and sincere with your children on this subject.
About you and your new friend children. You have to ask your friend about her or his kids: names, age, what they like to do, what they dont like, etc. By all means avoid having the first meeting at their place: children shall not feel that you are a threat to their living space. There are few more things to avoid: saying or showing anything negative about their other parent and acting artificially (kids will feel any pretentiousness a mile away). Ask your friend what kind of presents will be a good idea to bring, make your gifts not too expensive (neither too cheap). If it will happen that a child is cold with you, dont take an offense, be a grownup: if you will handle all difficulties maturely and with a good sense of humor, you will succeed.
Last tip. Just one more thing. Dont hurry to get married again, weight everything and take time for reflections and thoughts, and most of all, enjoy your life! - 15437
About the Author:
Des has one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships, personal ads and dating. To contact Des, see his other articles and access library of ebooks and other materials on online dating, finding your match online, writing personal ads, meeting singles and keeping viable relationships, or for single parents web dating networks, visit Orbiana Web Dating Depot .
