Monday, December 15, 2008

The Relationship of a Lifetime - Seeking the Right Match

By Estee Taschereau

Finding a good relationship is not always easy. When we do find a potential match we begin with that magical question: can this person be the one? But then, as the relationship progresses, sometimes we question what we have. When do we know that it is not meant to be?

The statistics are out there, with so many more relationships ending in divorce than we care to think about. How do we know if the person we are with is the right one? Is that uneasy feeling caused by a deep down knowing, or a fear of self?

We want to make sure that we are with someone who is good for us, and beat those almost undeniable statistics. It is not all that uncommon to question whether or not we are with the right person. What is your gut level feeling?

Let's look at the dream vs. reality aspects of relationships: Is your relationship based on a shared reality, or is it filled with illusion? How much are your desires dictating the reality of your relationship?

When we carry too much of our dreaming or illusions into a relationship we can end up trying to make the real person match our fantasy mate. Then what have you? Are you in a relationship with our dream, or the person standing by your side?

When we are in a truly loving interpersonal relationship with another we connect on levels not experienced in the other type of relationship. There is a reality that is shared between two people.

The connection we have with another can be a life-long bond that is unbreakable, but it can also be delicate and breakable, with only a misspoken word or the wrong action. Coming to an understanding of your past-based desires can bring you to greater clarity in your present relationship and the person who stands before you. - 15437

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